Mind Whispers

Book Intellectual Property Strategy by John Palfrey

2012-01-18T22:44:00.000-08:00

It is a 'what' book and not a 'how' book. I finished it on my flight home.

Chapter Outline:
1. Introduction - the self limiting myth of the sord and the shield
2. Why intellectual property matters
3. Recommendation 1 - treat intlectual property as a core asset class
4. Recommendation 2 - benefit from the IP of others legally
5. Recommendation 3 - create freedom of action through IP
6. Recommendation 4 - establish a flexible IP strategy
7. The special case of the nonprofit
8. Future outlook
9. Afterword - what the author really think

Yunan Jun 23 - Jul 7, 2011

2011-07-12T00:41:00.000-07:00

Kunming 昆明 ( Dong Chuan 东川红土地 + Jiu Xiang Cave 九乡溶洞) – Lijiang 丽江 – Shangrila 香格里拉 – Lugu Lake 泸沽湖.Photo at Picasa Public Album.

Some thoughts:

More:

中国的公厕有点脏，门锁坏了，冲水坏了，或遗留粪便及血液。如加上味道，就最倒眉。氧气不能带上火车。表演观众迟到，吵闹。中国很多烟民，到处都闻到烟臭。很多地方都在发展，污染可悲。人民总体卫生意思不高，随地吐痰和到处喝神（河／湖）水。吸烟处隔离差，巴士师机也抽烟。机场免税商店竟然要求客人快一点，因为他们要结账。的士师机开车吸烟，也不帮忙提重行李。

Reluctant to write in my own words, so here's the Google translate (poor translation):

China's public toilets a bit dirty, broken door locks, flush bad, or left feces and blood. And with the taste, pour on the brow. Oxygen can not bring the train. Show the audience late, noisy. Many Chinese smokers, smell the smoke smell everywhere. Many places in the development, pollution sad. People's overall health means not high, spitting and drinking God everywhere (river / lake) water. Smoking at the isolation is poor, the bus division machine also smoking. Airport duty-free shop and he asked the guests a little faster, because they want to check out. Smoking machine to drive the taxi division, not to mention baggage help.

Final words, I enjoy the travel, wishing Yunan can keep her charm in spite of the development.

Idling in Johor Pontian Kecil, Tanjung Piai & Kukup

2011-06-19T02:40:00.000-07:00

Need a break away, it was so thankful that SL invited me over to JB. I took the new bus AC7 from Yishun Interchange, it was quite a nice ride (less crowded and no change of MRT-bus) with a flat fee of SGD2 (ezlink).

After Woodland custom, the bus wil be waiting at bus bay straight after the stairs. For journey from JB to Malaysia, it is good to pay by cash (cash RM2 but ezlink SGD2). After Woodland custom, the bus will wait at platform 2.

Visiting JB, is eat eat eat.. Eat alot during this weekend and need to detox after that. All the food is nice :)

SL became my tour guide, and brought me 去吹风 -Tanjung Piai（The Southernmost Tip of Mainland Asia）& Kukup (a small fishing village near Pontian). TX SL :)

Finding waterfall in Singapore Botanical Garden

2011-06-12T04:39:00.000-07:00

This is my 3rd visit to Singapore Botanical Garden. First trip was full of expectation (disappointed to see the landscape), second trip was for a concert, and this trip, just to shoot waterfall (human made fountain) using my new ND grad filters.

Made many mistakes today: not shooting in RAW (changing white balance is a problem) & not cleaning my lens (can see mark on the photo). Some photo appears tinted in yellow (explanation for these? and solution) and i have to use GIMP editor to fix them.

Dirty lens where the mark is so visible >< !

I will shoot more, perhaps a real waterfall at my hometown!

2010 Christmas in Bangkok

2011-01-31T07:22:00.000-08:00

2010 Dec, i booked myself flight and a budget inn (The Saladaeng Inn THB2400), went to Bangkok.

Don't find the Thai people as friendly as before, hardly see any sincere SMILE! Before Bangkok, i went to Singapore for some Christmas light, i think atmosphere in Bangkok is better than Singapore, at least for photo shooting. I took the walking route recommended by many: started at Ratchadamri station, passing Four Season Hotel, Grand Hyatt Hotel, Erawan Mall and Amarin Tower

Via the skywalk, passed by Intercontinental Hotel, Gayson,Central World. Further via skywalk, got to Siam Paragon, Siam Center, Siam Discovery and MBK. It was tiring, a massage was my next call :P
Photo album

Singapore Night Market

2010-07-24T07:33:00.000-07:00

very difference from Msia's night market, there is no traffic jam (no people jam also..haha!) and all the stalls are set up temporary (along the roadside).

Book: 人体使用手册作者：吴清忠

2010-06-12T02:15:00.000-07:00

养生功法结论:

不生气
敲胆经
早睡早起
按摩心包经
保持洁净的肠胃

敲胆经: 如图每天在大腿外侧的四个穴位点，用力敲打，每敲打四下算一次，每天敲左右大腿各五十次，也就是左右各两百下。由于大腿肌肉和脂肪都很厚，因此必需用力，而且以每秒大约两下的节奏敲，才能有效刺激穴位。

按摩心包经: 如图，在心包经的穴位进行按摩，在图中所标示的位置附近寻找穴位，找到了穴位，稍用力压就会感到明显的痛感就对了。每天在每个穴位按摩2-3分钟。
除了心包经之外，应再按摩任脉的膻中穴（两乳之间）和膀胱经的昆仑穴（外侧脚踝后方腱前凹陷处），其中昆仑穴的按摩应在按摩心包经之前实施，这样比较容易将心包积液排出。

症现于四肢五官，病存于五脏六腑，是中医最基本的道理
当做到敲胆经和早睡早起的功课后，人体的血液会很快增加，这些血液会充盈于人体的脏器，这时人的体形不一定会变胖，但是体重一定会增加。
多数发胖的人，都是脾虚的体质。肠胃的细菌感染是最主要的原因。
胆经不通的人，在胆经路过的大腿外侧会堆积脂肪。如果这个人爱好运动，这些垃圾就会往下流动，而堆积在小腿肚上。因此大腿外侧较胖 (现代女人多数如此) 或小腿肚上形成萝卜腿 (现代男人或爱好运动的女人多数如此) 的人，胆功能必定不好。
肥胖不是吃得太多，而是排得太少
多数发胖的人，都是脾虚的体质。肠胃的细菌感染是最主要的原因。
肠胃感染主要来自两个来源，一个是来自唾液的感染，另一个是食用不清洁的食物。

Book: 傻笑着读完心理学　李小洛著

2010-06-11T22:30:00.000-07:00

想改变一个人的不良习惯，就对他的不良习惯进行奖励。将内在动机转换成外在动机。
社会性惰化 Social Loafing
皮格马利翁效应　Pygmalion Effect
社会助长　Social Facilitation
反弹效应　Rebound Effect
倒摄压制　Retroactive Inhibition
相比能力，　更应该夸奖付出的努力
习惯性无助　Learned Helplessness
经典性条件反射　Classical Conditioning
凡勃伦效应　Veblen Effect
厌恶亏 Loss Aversion
阶段性邀请　The foot in the door technique
低球技术
非全部技术
焦点效应　Spotless Effect
旁观者效应 Bystander Effect
面部表情回馈理论　Facial Feedback Theory
镜像效应 Mirror Effect

Book: A Step By Step Guide To Getting Your Financial Life On Track

2010-05-30T00:46:00.000-07:00

There are many financial advising media. This is one of the e-book i came across online. It is provided for free on http://www.financial-advice-for-beginners.com/ .

The agenda in any financial book is almost the same. The topics covered in this e-book:

Protect yourself and your family first: insurance, look out for term insurance that give you protection and saving returns. I cancel my previous life & invest insurance, i find that it is best to separate investment from insurance. Together, they won't work to optimum.
Manage your money flow: a useful budgeting spreadsheet is provided I've downloaded it and will use it for my new SG money tracking.
Get yourself out of debt: I will try to settle my car loan earlier. But for my 0% interest student loan, may pay according to schedule.
Start accumulating wealth
Learn how to make more money

"If you are working at a job, you can earn more money in working more hours or getting a pay raise. Company bonus is really not reliable as it name suggest. "

Other ways to make more money:

1. Inherit from someone
2. Win lottery
3. Have your money earn more money for you
4. Buy or build a business or asset that can earn you money even if you are not there to run it

In short, this e-book is very simple and basic, good for beginner and for revision. I like the free spreadsheet provided.

HTC Legend

2010-05-29T20:41:00.001-07:00

My prepaid phone subscription is approaching expiry, i am thinking to replace it with a postpaid phone package in SG.

One good thing of phone service is SG is there are many options, and phone plan normally come with discounted-price handset. So, i should get myself a new handset instead of having a dual sim handset.

Everyone is talking about iPhone and more and more people are holding one. I think iPhone is really an attractive piece of technology, but Apple teaches us to 'think differently'. Maybe i am just not willing to spend that much of $ on iPhone & the data plan. Check out the prices of iPhone plan under StarHub, Singtel and M1 http://sgcgo.com/singtel-starhub-m1-iphone-price-plans.

I want an iPhone compatible smartphone with a reasonable data plan. So, definitely i am looking into Android phone. Haha, Android vs Apple. HTC Desire is great but i don't want to spend extra and its OS is Windows Mobile (nothing exciting on the OS). Finally, i get HTC Legend.

I am sticking with Singtel for the new plan. As a foreigner in SG, i find it very troublesome to provide 'proof of address' (tenant agreement, employment letter, CPF statement, ect) when signing up a new plan. At the end of the day, i paid SGD368 for my HTC Legend (Singtel customer gets SGD50 discount). My company Corporate Individual Scheme (CIS) gives ~13% discount on the talk plan for 24 months, free incoming calls, 100 min free talktime, 500 free local sms (free auto roam, caller ID for limited period, SIM card & registration waived).

So, a new Android phone to play now :)

Singtel price plan, Starhub price plan, M1 price plan

Book: Inside Steve's Brain by Leander Kahney 2008

2010-05-29T19:39:00.000-07:00

What's inside his brain:

Focus means saying no. Jobs focuses Apple's limited resources on a small number of projects it can execute well.
Stay focused means do not allow feature creep. Keep things simple, which is a virtue in a world of overly complex technology.
Generate alternatives and pick the best. Jobs insists on choices.
Don't be afraid to start from scratch. Mac OS X was worth doing over, even if it took one thousand programmers three years of nonstop toil to do it.
Avoid the Osborne effect. keep the new goodies secret until they are ready to ship, lest customers stop buying the current stuff while waiting for new stuff.
Don't shit on your doorstep. Apple's engineers hated the old Mac OS, but Jobs ordered a positive spin on it.
Don't listen to your customers. They don't know what they want.
Don't compromise. Jobs's obsession with excellence has created a unique development process that churns out truly great products.
Design is function, not form. For Jobs, design is the way the product works.
Respect materials. The iMac was plastic. The iPhone is glass. Their forms follow the materials they are made from.
Partner only with A players and fire bozos. Talented staff are a competitive advantage that puts you ahead of your rivals.
Don't listen to yes man. Argument and debate foster creative thinking. Jobs wants partners who challenge his ideas.
Find a passion for your work. Jobs has it, and it's infectious.
Become a great intimidator, inspire through fear and a desire to please.
Study the market and the industry. Jobs is constantly looking to see what new technologies are coming down the pike.
Don't consciously think about innovation. Systematizing innovation is like watching Michael Dell try to dance. Painful.
Concentrate on products. Products are the gravitational force that pulls it together.
Steal. Be shameless about stealing other people's great ideas.
Connect. For Jobs, creativity is simply connecting things.
Burn the boats, Jobs killed the most popular iPod to make room for new, thinner model. Burn the boats, and you must stand and fight.
If you miss the boat, work hard to catch up. Jobs initially failed to see the digital music revolution but soon caught up.
Look for vectors going in time - bigger changes in the wider world that can be used to your advantage. The iPod greatly benefited from improvements in batteries and screens driven by the cell phone industry.
Embrace the team. The iPod does not have a sole progenitor, there is no single Podfather. It is never just one person - success always has many fathers.

Book: Why Men Don't Listen & Women Can't Read Maps, Barbara & Allan Pease

2010-05-28T06:04:00.000-07:00

A very interesting book.

Chapter 1. Same species, different worlds

The wiring of our brain in the worm and the effect of hormones will determine how we think and behave.

Chapter 2. Making perfect sense

A boy does not really lose skin sensitivity at puberty, it just all goes to one area.

Chapter 3. It's all in the mind

Men joke that they sleep by the door of their first marital home for a quick getaway. In truth, it's pure defender instinct.
Males have limited abilities when it comes to speech and conversation
Because women use both sides of their brains, many find it more difficult to tell their left hand from their right.
Brain wiring test. (my score was slightly mascurine for a female , haha: a score of 110, lower than the normal range 150-300.

Chapter 4. Talking and listening

Mothers who try to talk to their sons are usually disappointed to receive only short grunts in reply.
If men want to get on better with women, then they need to talk more.
To impress men in business, a woman needs to keep her thoughts inside her head and only talk about conclusion.
Men need to understand that when a woman talks, she is not expecting him to respond with solutions.
Women need to understand that when men does not talk, that is not a cue that something is wrong.
The first rule of talking to a man: keep it simple! Give him only one thing at a time to think about.
Men usually only interrupt each other if they are becoming competitive or aggressive.
Men love big words, meaning of words is important. But a woman will use words that she does not really mean.
If a woman is talking to you a lot, she likes you. If she is not talking to you, you are in trouble.
Indirect talk builds rapport among women - but if often does not work with men because they do not understand the rules.
Women use the 'girlie' voice to counteract the power of the large body size and others use it to encourage protective behavior in men they like.

Chapter 5. Spatial ability: maps, targets and parallel parking

The majority women have limited spatial ability
She has no sense of direction, but he can never find socks in his drawer
To have a happy life: never insist that a woman read a map or street directory
Where equal spatial ability exists, women can perform at a higher level than men
If you want to persuade a woman to go with a certain set of plans, show her a three dimensional version

Chapter 6. Thoughts, attitudes, emotions and other disaster areas

Boys like things, girls like people
Boys compete, girls co-operate
Boys want power and status, girls want relationships and co-operation
Girls will ostracize a girl who exerts authority by thinking she is bossy.
Men have side-by-side friendships based on things and achievements, women have face-to-face friendships based on emotional sharing.
If a woman is unhappy in her relationships, she cant concentrate on her works. If a man is unhappy at work he cant focus on his relationships.
Man leave his woman if he feels he cant make her happy. Woman leaves a man not because she is unhappy with what he can provide, but because she is emotionally unfulfilled.
Men hate criticism, that is why they like to marry virgin. A woman needs to make sure she does not make a man feel wrong.
Don't offer a man advice unless he asks for it. Tell him you have confidence in his ability to work things out.
When dealing with an upset woman, do not offer solutions or invalidate her feelings - just show her you are listening
For a woman, sharing problems with her friends is a sign of trust and friendship
Men climb on their rock to solve problems. Women who follow them get kicked off.
A man is expected to communicate: a skill that does not come naturally to him. But these skills can be learned
Real men do cry, but only when the emotion segment of the brain is engaged. Suspect men who cry regularly in public.
For a man to feel energized, he needs an objective, a target to hit and a timetable.
Give women a sincere compliment with more details.

Chapter 7. Our chemical cocktail

Progesterone(causes parental & nurturing feeling) is released when a woman see a baby (teddy bears, short fat men with chubby cheeks)
Blond hair is a sign of high oestrogen and high fertility
Ninety percent of the people in prison are men (high testosterone)
Girls suffering PMT get lower scores in mathematical exams

Chapter 8. Boys will be boys,but not always

Scientists have shown that homosexuality is an orientation that is unalterable. It is not a choice

Chapter 9. Men, women and sex

Testosterone stimulates the desire for sex
Men are microwave, women are electric ovens. This explains the older man/younger woman combination.
When it comes to sex, women need a reason and men need a place
When men feel stress, he sees sex as a sleeping pill.
When men are asked about their relationship, they mentioned in terms of their partner's personal services (cook, iron his shirts, or massage his head). When a woman is asked, she describe based on the recent events (how attentive, his helpfulness and how much he has communicated with her)
The cleverer you are, the less sex you have
Sex increases your testosterone levels which fortify your bones and muscles and supply you a good level of cholesterol.
A woman wants lot of sex with the man she loves. A man wants lots of sex
Men wants women to dress tarts (but never in public)
Testicle size determines the males level of faithfulness or monogamy
Men are stimulated trough their eyes, women through their eyes
The combination of manly body and female values is usually found only in gay or effeminate men
Most women prefer sex with light out - they cant bear to see a man enjoying himself. Men like sex with the lights on - so they can get the woman's name right.

Chapter 10. Marriage, love and romance

Sex is the price women pay for marriage. Marriage is the price men pay for sex
At a base, men want a cross between their mother and a personal servant
Women recognizes when love does not exist. That's why they are much more proactive in finishing relationships.
Men can separate love from sex. For women, love and sex are inter wined. One equals the other.
A woman enters a new relationship looking for romance and love. Sex comes as a consequence. Men frequently enter a relationship through sex and then look to see if there could be the possibility of a relationship.
How do you know if a man is ready for sex? he's breathing
Some surefire romance tips for men:

Set the environment
Feed her
Light a fire (cook)
Bring flowers (new fresh flower brings another chance of romance)
GO dancing
Buy chocolate and champagne (contains chemical in increasing testosterone, except white chocolate and coffee)

The flower of love is the rose. After three days all the petals fall off and you are left with an ugly,prickly thing. Chances are both men and women do not have much in common or much to talk about. Finding the right partner means deciding what things you will have common with someone in long term
Men Men prefer to be touched in main one area, and as often as possible

Chapter 11. Towards a different future
Our biology has not changed much and mostly outdated. Despite the best intentions of equal opportunity employers, boys still stubbornly go into jobs with a mechanical and spatial bias and girls seem compelled to seek jobs involving human interaction.

The END

Book: 我不是教你诈 2

2010-05-28T06:03:00.000-07:00

人性:

人都是善中有恶，恶中有善的
做一天和尚，撞一天钟
用小题大作，来避免小事变大
想让自己成功，先得了解人性，先得为别人着想
他吃不下，也不让别人吃，一口咬下，含在嘴里，不吞下去
消息不能提早走漏，是为了减少阻力和对彼此的伤害
别跟不要命的人斗

Getting to Know Singapore - April 2010

2010-04-20T06:49:00.000-07:00

Telephone numbers in SG comes in the 8-digit numbering format. I have to add 6 to existing fixed line telephone number. The digit '9' is for mobile phone services.
Calling to and from Malaysia does not require IDD. Call to SG from Malaysia requires only area code 02. Haha, i do not even know SG area code is 02 (KL 03, Penang 04, Perak 05).
Singtel, one of the SG phone provider charges local phone rate to Malaysia, dial 019 + country code+ area code + phone for a limited time.
Receiving local call in SG is chargable (Singtel). I must admit that i do not know SG very well.
SG classifies the foreign workers by how much $$ money they make. R pass for those make less than $1800/month, S pass xxx, Q pass, P2, P1, etc...i am thinking of 'income' discrimination
Subscribing to internet service (Singtel, Starhub, or M1) as foreigner requires deposit money ...it can go up to $200SGD. One good thing is the the application process is fast. Applying as Employee Pass holder/PR/citizen is almost free.
Traveling in SG is convenient because SG is small and the transportation system is well planned. But i found traveling on MRT and buses is 'groomy' and crowded. I have no traffic jam problem, except people jam issue. People in SG seldom smile, especially commuters :(
All banks in SG need Malaysian to produce their Malaysian ID card when opening up a bank account, even they do not publish that requirement on their website. Deposit is needed to open an account, as usual for bank: money comes first (i almost forgot).
You can hardly differentiate between citizen, permanent resident (PR) and foreigners in Singapore. I can easily find an American who is a citizen, a Malay who is PR and a Chinese who is a foreigner. Just throw a stone and you will hit one (throwing is an offense in SG irregardless of hitting the target or not, and you will get fined for that).
SG is a good place to work, but not sure is a good place to live. Will find out more

Preview Trip to SG, March 2010

2010-03-30T07:36:00.000-07:00

Beginning...
Album http://picasaweb.google.com/osk803/SGMarch2010#

In Melbourne March 2010

2010-03-30T07:28:00.000-07:00

Nice place, nice weather, nice people, nice memory~
Album http://picasaweb.google.com/osk803/Melbourne2010#

Chinese New Year 2010

2010-02-26T21:34:00.000-08:00

CNY is all about food, reunion, games and family :). Happy New Year to all!

Move into new house

2010-02-26T21:27:00.000-08:00

Finally have to say goodbye to my old house (since 1989) and move into a new house.

My last Weekend - reading, making yogurt and bread

2010-02-16T06:12:00.000-08:00

Before Chinese New year 2010,
Making bread is very easy, this round i am trying out a new shape. Making yogurt is not difficult also, these are my steps:

1. Heat the milk until it starts to simmer (~80C) in my rice cooker (haha! No gas stove)
2. Cool until finger can touch (~40C)
3. Add 2 tbspn of yogurt
4. Pour into thermos
5. Stay at room temperature for 8 hours
6. Pour into sterilized container, keep in fridge

This book takes me 3 weeks to finish (The Innovator’s Solution Creating and Sustaining successful growthClayton M. Christensen & Michael E. Rayno, 2003). It answers these questions:

How can we beat our most powerful competitors?
What products will customers want to buy?
Who are the best customers for our product?
Getting the scope of the business right
How to avoid commoditization?
Is your organization capable of disruptibe growth?
Managing the strategy development process
There is good money and bad money
The role of senior executives in leading new growth

Auspicious Colors during CNY 2010

2010-01-16T20:38:00.000-08:00

Everyone is preparing for the 2010 Chinese New Year celebration!

2010 新年快乐 Happy New Year

2010-01-16T20:26:00.001-08:00

有些梦发了很多年，是时候醒了
有些事等了很多年，是时候做了
有些人等了很多年，是时候忘了
有些坏习惯做了很多年，是时候戒了
关心你的人，要感激；不关心你的人，要祝福，其他的人，随缘，还有什么漏了，迟些才加！

Bright up Your Spirit in Chiang Mai Yee Peng Festival Nov 2009

2009-11-09T06:13:00.000-08:00

On 31st Oct 2009, i went to ChiangMai for its blue sky, colorful flora, smiling people and Loy Krathong (Yee Peng) festival. Online album

We were there for the Yee Peng festival, where there were floating lanterns on the river as well as floating ballons (lanterns) into the sky. The unexpected things were the noisy explosive firecraker and smell of kerosene. Another unexpected was that we have missed the massive floating of floating balloon into the sky. It was held a week before the Yee Peng day, which was on 24th Oct. I hope the CM municipal office can make that announcement earlier in the future.

Suggested daily itinerary for Chiang Mai:

Wat Pratat Doi Suthep, to pay respect to local the GOD first (prayer == $$) . The road uphill is quite windy. On the same route: Phuping Palace, Hmong Village
Chiang Mai Zoo in the morning and Bo Sang & Kamphaeng craftworks in the afternoon
Mae Sa elephant > Queens Botanical Garden > Orchid farm
Royal Floral Ratchapreuk > Night Safari

Activities:

Celebrate Loy Krathong/Yee Peng together with the local people at Thapae Gate and along Ping River. The municipal office for the celebration is located near our hotel.
Tracking
Tribe hill visit: Aka, Lisu, Karen and Long Neck. Some are not genuine long neck people as they are modernized and subsidized by the government for tourist 'display'.
Market visit: Night Bazaar for western style and Warorot Market for Chinese/Thai style
Spa/massage. We went for 2 sessions of Thai body massage, SYOK! 200 Baht for an hour (exclude tip). Can try the Garden Chiang Mai along the Thapae road inside of the wall. Ask for senior aunties as they are more experience.
Have a luxury kantoke dinner with dancing performance.

Money:
Flight xxx + Hotel xxx + Others +
Food & transport & entrance fee in Chiang Mai only = 3400 Baht (rough estimation of RM340)

Hotel:
The hotel was REALLY a value for the price, we paid RM20 per room (twin beds with free wifi in room, 2 bottles of water, free toast bread for breakfast and best of all, the location is near Chinatown and Ping River for Yee Peng celebration. Walking to Tapae Gate and Night Bazaar is slightly away but not far...and the place is clean and quiet for sleeping). Name of the hotel, New Mitrapap Hotel in Chiang Moi (China Town). Book online.

Book Reading - The 4 Hour Work Week (Timothy Ferriss)

2009-08-15T01:34:00.000-07:00

Another book from a friend. Not sure i should read more, haha...cos Albert Einstein said:

Reading, after a certain age, diverts the mind too much from its creative pursuits. Any man who reads too much and uses his own brain too little falls into lazy habits of thinking

This book is about:
"Forget the old concept of retirement and saving for the future - there is no need to wait and every reason not do. Whether your dream is escaping the rat race, experiencing first class world travel, earning a monthly five-figure income with no management, or just living more and working less, this book is the blueprint."

Suggested step-by-step to 'reinvent' yourself:

Definition - 'new rich' lifestyle
Elimination of the unimportant, increase per hour results, selective ignorance, low info diet, etc. Result is to get be rich in time and how to accomplish more by doing less.
"Doing something unimportant well does not make it important & Requiring a lot of time does not make a task important"
"Being busy is a form of laziness- lazy thinking and indiscriminate action"
Automation for more time and income.
Refine rules and processes before adding people.
"Using people to leverage a refined process multiplies production; using people as a solution to a poor process multiplies problems"
Liberation for mobility, mini retirement, remote control and 'escaping' the boss, haha!

Nikon vs Canon - SLR

2009-08-10T06:13:00.000-07:00

Many friends asked me this question: Should i choose Canon or Nikon camera?

I have no answer, frankly. Both have good camera & lens. If you are newly investing in SLR, my suggestion is to personally hold the SLR, play with it and decide which one you like. Canon has more lens options and is comparatively cheaper while Nikon has good history of lens compatibility & quality.

I am not favoring any side in sharing my choice. To me, i like something simple and as little lens as possible (more options does not mean better), i choose Nikon. I have limited budget and my D40 serves me well (my collections: standard kit lens is great + telephoto + prime lens). What i need is just a beginner SLR with good quality and reliable lens. If your aim is to shoot prof sports events or to build a huge collection of lens. Maybe, Canon is your choice.

Agian, why Nikon:
1. I did try both models before buying (to be fair, search online for comparable Nikon and Canon models to try): Nikon gives me reliable quality, Canon just shoot everything
2. I have limited budget and D40 comes with a great standard kit lens which serve me well as a beginner. And...i dun't want a heavy SLR. I can only invest in cheap body but expensive lens SLOWLY.
3. Not all Nikon lens work on Canon but almost all Canon lens work on Nikon body (this is what the Canon salesman told me). Not a problem to me, i normally stick to the same manufacturer, some more Nikon is reliable in compatibility issue.
4. My interests is to shoot daily, not prof photographing for National Geography nor sports journal.

No bias, these are other comments found on Nikon VS Canon SLR:

Check out some debates on this topic:
http://www.macworld.com/article/131467/2008/01/debate.html

Durian, Mangosteen or Dukung

2009-08-09T05:31:00.000-07:00

Choose one? I want all...haha!! Season starts June-Aug:

Durian - normal (tepi jalan) durian RM1 for one, "green-skin" (che-pi in hokkien), RM5 for medium; Mangosteen - RM3 per KG

Dukung - RM2 per KG, fresher RM2.5 per KG (my hometown)..Let's EAT.

Book Reading - The Valuable Present 珍贵的礼物 - Spencer Johnson (斯宾塞.约翰逊)

2009-08-05T07:53:00.000-07:00

A book borrowed from a special friend (in Mandarin):

所有的百万富翁, 都爱他们的职业
浪费时间等待一切完美配合的人, 什么事都不会完成. 最理想的行动时机就是现在!
只有对心灵力量有信心的人, 才能达到成功.
要得到信心的唯一方法, 是透过言语不断的重复.
一个思想, 即使是假的, 也可以影响我们, 只要我们相信它是真的.
如果失去快乐, 你就失去了一切.
每一个考验, 每一个问题, 每一个错误, 有一天都会变成一片壮丽的花瓣. 就象根茎上都是刺, 痛苦会导向光明, 使你看见美丽.
专注是生活中所有成功的关键.
工作的唯一价值, 是加强你的心灵力量使思想精进.
没有利用到书中的知识, 就会重蹈前人的覆辙, 浪费了许多时间与金钱. 完全不怀疑书中所说的一切, 让前人来替你思想, 则是跌入另一种陷阱.

Book Reading - The Millionaire in Me

2009-07-26T01:42:00.000-07:00

A simple book from Azizi Ali www.millionairesplanet.com.

:( Burglars........

2009-07-26T01:38:00.001-07:00

Sorry for my brother for losing his SLR.

Book Reading - Adelle Davis

2009-06-27T06:34:00.000-07:00

Book reading..highly recommended:
Adelle Davis - Let's Eat Right to Keep Fit & Let's Get Well (chinese translation)

戴维斯 - 吃的营养科学观 & 吃的营养科与治疗

Reference: http://www.lionsgrip.com/adelleintro.html

黑色507议会新闻辑

2009-05-14T18:14:00.000-07:00

当今大马 http://www.malaysiakini.com/news/104350

得民心者得天下 - 还人民一个公正民主的霹雳州，解散州议会

2009-05-10T05:20:00.000-07:00

This is the best drama of the year, ALL MALAYSIAN (and non Malaysian) should watch the Perak 507 drama. Watch on Youtube:

507 Perak State Assembly Chaos

The Great DUN Perak fiasco

Highlights of the drama (main actors: 国阵 & 民联, supporters: 便衣警员)
-国阵知道召开州议会让乱上加乱
-国阵先撤销民联议长西华古玛, 利用便衣警员把合法委任的议长强拖离议会，软禁在一小房间
-发出禁止媒体采访的禁令
-警方在议会前一天发出禁令，禁止人民接近议会500公尺内等
-国阵当下抢位抢麦抢时间，委任自己人当议长
-警方如临大敌般对黑衣人士的逮捕行动

What i see from the drama:
法治精神和议会民主在霹州议会内荡然无存

What's the comment from Perak Menteri Besar:
霹雳州州务大臣拿督斯里赞比里提醒民联议员别玩火，他的容忍是有限度的，如果民联继续玩火，国阵也将会一直斗争下去不罢休！

Feeling after watching the drama:
- Is Perak Menteri Besar planning another drama?
- Please have the drama somewhere else, not in Perak.
- By the way, are they using my (people money) money for the drama production? Or they having other source of $?
- I wish i can vote and wear black as i like in Perak.
- 还人民一个公正民主的霹雳州，解散州议会.
- Hope they are not suing Youtube for the drama sharing.

霹雳火 - 2个大臣、2个议长、还有3个“叛徒”州议员 My Perak

2009-05-07T19:08:00.000-07:00

7 May 2009 revealed the ugliest scenes in Malaysian politic history. As a Malaysian, i choose not to forget what had happened in the state of Perak. I am writing this as a reminder to myself.

For what happen on 7th May 2009
The Star http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2009/5/8/nation/3862171&sec=nation
Kwongwah (Chinese) http://www.kwongwah.com.my/news/2009/05/07/107.html & http://www.kwongwah.com.my/tag/霹雳火

The DAP adviser Lim Kit Siang used 223 to describe the situation in Peark state:
2 Menteri Besar(s), 2 Speakers, and 3 Traitors
霹州议会的局势如今已僵持不下，现在已经出现2个大臣、2个议长、还有3个“叛徒”州议员
(http://www.kwongwah.com.my/news/2009/05/07/100.html)

** 3 Traitors - Perak people has elected them as the assemblyman but they QUIT and joined party A
** 2 Menteri Besar(s) - Those assemblyman who have QUIT elected a new Menteri Besar from party A
** 2 Speakers - Those assemblyman who have QUIT and the newly appointed Menteri Besar elected a new Speaker from party A

All these people 3+2+2 claim to serve the Perak people.

Irregardless of what party A is, they show no respect for the people. Those who have quit is no longer representing the people. This is a common sense: once you have fired a CEO of a company, he can no longer speak on behalf of the company. What happened in Perak is totally OUT OF LOGIC.

My (Malaysian and the people of Perak) common sense:
I respect the Royal institution and hope they respect the wish of the people. Logically, i do not recognize the new Menteri Besar & the new Speaker Ganesan. The reason is simple: The new MB and Speaker were elected by the Barisan Nasional, not the people of Perak. There is nothing personal here, if the new Menteri Besar & the Speaker have the 'heart' to serve the people, they should earn our trust through the right way.

The intervention of police shows they favor party A & shows no enforcement for justice. They are disciplined officers but they took order from the DEPUTY Speaker instead of the Speaker as shown in 7 May event.

And finally, thanks to the former Menteri Besar Nizar & the former Speaker Sivakumar, for fighting for the people, irregardless of what the party they are in.

Photo http://gallery.thestar.com.my/default.asp?id=1209

Summary of Perak Menteri Besar crisis

茨厂街大扫除 Petaling Street == China Town

2009-04-20T05:21:00.000-07:00

I made a bad comment for my last visit to Petaling Street (China Town or Jalan Petaling). The china town has been flooded by non-chinese, especially immigrants. There was nothing "China/Chinese" there and i felt unsecure near the area. The recent news (茨厂街大扫除) to fire those immigrant finally gives some hope in recovering the charm of Petaling Street. Wishing Petaling Street a better tomorrow.

See how immigrants flooded Petaling Street http://weechookeong.wordpress.com/2008/04/20/photo-album-of-illegal-structures-illegal-immigrants-in-petaling-street/

Taiping - my KAMPUNG (hometown) !

2009-03-07T23:35:00.000-08:00

Hang back in my hometown for some times (New Year holiday & plant shutdown & Chinese New Year) and found myself TOURING the town like stranger. The experience...really not bad. It is the time to capture some memory of my old town..Taiping (Kamunting):

Online album: http://picasaweb.google.com/osk803/Taiping20091#

View Taiping in a larger map

LONELY CHRISTMAS 陈弈迅 & 亡命之徒纵贯线 (Super Band: 罗大佑、李宗盛、周华健、张震岳)

2008-12-23T16:23:00.000-08:00

想你, 所以寂寞.
开始想不起你如何爱我. 我们没过去, 没现在, 也不敢想将来.
你说你会照顾我下辈子, 却忘了关心我此刻的需要. 说你很想我, 却没能见我一面. 说你要包紧我不放, 却常让我迷路. 虚拟的世界是没安全感的, 你却只活在我虚拟的世界.这个CHRISTMAS 没有你的礼物, 也没有寂寞. 不要寂寞, 不要想你, 是我给自己的祝福. 圣诞要快乐!

换另一首歌: 亡命之徒 (Super Band)
出发啦不要问那路在哪迎风向前是唯一的方法出发啦

不想问那路在哪运命哎呀什么关卡?
当车声隆隆梦开始阵痛它卷起了风重新雕塑每个面孔夜雾那么浓

开阔也汹涌有一种预感路的终点是迷宫

Lyric

Visiting Hong Kong 2008 (1 Nov - 8 Nov 2008) via Macao

2008-11-10T04:31:00.000-08:00

Plan:

1. Reach Macao and visit casino (Sin Ma Lu, Prince Casino, Lisboa Casino) http://picasaweb.google.com/osk803/HKNov2008Macao

2. Morning in Macao and ferry to HK, night at Mongkok (Sin Ma Lu, Senado Square, Tsim Tsa Tsui China Ferry Terminal, 女人街)

3. Morning in Stanley and afternoon in Wan Cai, ferry across Victorial Harbour to Tsim Tsa Tsui (会议展览中心, 金紫荆广场, 天星碼頭, 星光大道, 幻彩咏香江岸 at 8pm, Harbour City Shopping Complex) http://picasaweb.google.com/osk803/HKNov2008StanleyNVicHarbour

4. Morning in Disney Land and night at Central (SOHO and Lan Kwai Fong) http://picasaweb.google.com/osk803/HKNov2008Disney

5. Morning in Ocean Park and night at Tong Luo Wan for horse race (Time Square, 跑马地马场) http://picasaweb.google.com/osk803/HKNov2008OceanPark

6. Morning in Lantao and late afternoon at the Peak (昂坪市集, 宝莲禅寺, 天坛大佛, 心经简林, 香港杜莎夫人蜡像馆) http://picasaweb.google.com/osk803/HKNov2008LantaoNTPeak

7. Morning in Mongkok street and ferry to Macao

8. More Macao walk

Photos: http://picasaweb.google.com/osk803/HKNov2008EatNSleep & http://picasaweb.google.com/osk803/HKNov2008Street

Web References:

Macao walk http://hk.macautourism.gov.mo/gb/discovering/walking_tour.php
Stanley Stanley http://www.hk-stanley-market.com/photo.htm
Metropole Hotel http://www.hoteltravel.com/macau/macau/metropole_macau.htm
Ferry Macao HK http://www.nwff.com.hk/english/schedule/route.asp?Origin=CF&Dest=M&From=25&line=macau
Macao Heritage http://www.macauheritage.net/mherit/mhtimetableE.asp
Star Ferry http://www.starferry.com.hk/
HK Disney Land http://park.hongkongdisneyland.com/hkdl/en_US/hotels/overview?name=HotelsOverviewPage
Ocean Park http://www.oceanpark.com.hk/chi_s/main/index.html
Lantao http://www.np360.com.hk/html/gbx/visitor/gethere.html?play=&continue1=yes&soundpos=
Bus to Tai O http://www.newlantaobus.com/road_21.htm
The Peak http://www.thepeak.com.hk/full/cn/index.php
Madame Tussauds http://www.madame-tussauds.com.hk/chi/t_general.asp
Dragon Hostel http://www.dragonhostel.com/
Octopus/ MTR http://www.mtr.com.hk/chitxt/train/listing.html

Money Talking:

My Air Asia flight (round trip from Penang - KL - Macao) =~ rm694 with a luggage (suggest Penang -> KL -> Macao and return HK -> KL -> Penang with extra $ but save ferry fare and custom waiting time)
$ for my accomodation: Macao: booked Metropole Hotel through hoteltravel.com (usd105 for 2- weekend price) and walked in Central Hotel for the last night in Macao (HK330 for 2 – weekday price); HK: booked Dragon Hostel online, HK300 per night for 2 person. Accomodation in HK + Macao =~ rm636
$ for Tickets: Disney HKD295 + Ocean Park HKD195 (discount from Dragon Hostel) + Lantao 36o tram HKD 79.20 (discount from Ocean Park) + Mdm Tussuads HKD140 + One way tram to the Peak HKD22 =~ HKD731.2
$ for transportation (MTR + bus + tram + ferry + taxi for 2) =~ HKD680
$ for food =~HKD 580.90
$ for misc =~ HKD421.00

My budget HK trip = rm694 + rm636 + HKD731.2 + HKD797.50 + HKD580.90 + HKD421 =~ rm1330 + HKD2416.10 =~ HKD5076.10 (rm2538.05)

POiNTs:

Traveling in HK requires a lot of walking, Octopus for MTR, bus, tram, even food and skill in following road signs.
Bus (HKD3.30) from Macao Airport to city (Sin Ma Lu) MT1, MT2, AP1, AP2 stop operating after 8p.m. when we reached Macao. We have no choice but to take taxi (HKD90)
HKD =~ Macao Pataca, most rate it as 1:1
Transportation in Macao is quite easy except to airport. To visit Casino, take hotel/free shuttle bus operated by casino at Macao Ferry Terminal (Venetian, Prince, Lisboa, etc.). Casino the Prince, Lisboa and Hotel Metropole are within walking distance from Sin Ma Lu. For return shuttle bus to ferry terminal, some bus requires return voucher from casino.
When buying ferry ticket from Macao ferry terminal to HK, mention to the operator either Kowloon terminal or HK terminal depends on your location.
Dragon Hostel offers discounted Disneyland and Ocean Park tickets, and also free local call.
Take tram in HK island for HKD2
Macao, i will come again!
HK: many people, many electronics, many lights, many CCTV, ...

Another Book from Dale Carnegie

2008-10-23T05:43:00.001-07:00

要轻松到达别人的内心, 你需要了解人性.

成功的秘诀是:我不说任何人不好.

影响对方就是讨论他所希望的, 而且还告诉他得到的办法.

有些人的终身错误是只想着别人关心他, 对他发生兴趣, 但这样做往往会毫无结果
喜欢表现自己是人类心灵的共同需求. 鉴于此, 你可以在有了好点子时不让别人知道, 而是引导对方去想出这个办法. 如此以来, 你就会赢的全世界的合作; 因为别人认为这个想法是他自己想出来的, 就会非常支持和拥护它.

很多人愿意把狗当成家庭成员, 困难时也不离弃. 为什么呢? 因为狗在几乎所有家养动物中, 是对人最感兴趣的, 与人最亲近的.

所有的人都喜欢尊敬他的人. 影响别人, 让别人喜欢你的妙法有一个, 那就是:尊敬他, 对他感兴趣.

当你要别人为你做什么时, 先想想你能为别人做什么.

一个成熟的人, 不是一个只对大人物感兴趣的人, 也不是一个只对和自己和自己利益有关的人感兴趣的人, 而是跟所有人都能有一句问侯的人.

记住一个人的名字, 对他来说, 这是任何语言中最甜蜜, 最动听的声音.

如果你想给别人留下好感, 何不鼓励他多说话, 你来做个倾听者.

征服吹毛求疵者有一个法宝, 施展你的耐心和同情, 他会自动软化下来

如果你希望别人喜欢你, 乐意帮你, 请讨论他感兴趣的事.

永远觉得他人重要, 永远不吝啬你的赞美

争辩不是目的, 聪明人会选择让大脑控制舌头, 而不是让舌头控制大脑.

世上真正明理的人并不多, 大多数的人都心怀成见, 善于妒嫉, 猜疑, 畏惧, 固执, 并有强烈的自尊心.

承认了他的重要性, 争论自然就停止. 因为他的受重视的渴望被满足了.

如果你想获得别人对你的赞同, 请尊重别人的意见, 永远别说 “你错了”.

富兰克的教训: 只要有人说错, 或着你有不同意见, 你就会毫不留情地攻击对方. 现在谁还会在乎你的意见?大家都发觉你不在时, 他们才更开心. 你懂的太多了, 没有人再能教你什么. 其实, 也没人会再告诉你什么. 你除了目前有限的见识外, 不会再有什么进步.

不要跟你的顾客, 爱人或对手争辩, 不要说他错了, 也不要刺激他.

有分歧的时候, 有一个方法可以让所有的人赞同你:如果对方错了, 巧妙的暗示他- 他会感激你; 如果你错了, 抢先地批评自己 – 他会原谅你.

太阳可以比风更能使你脱去外衣, 温和, 友善, 赞赏远比暴力, 攻击更能使人改变原意.

我从来不直接说出别人所犯的错误, 因为那对我没有好处.

使对方在开始的时候说 “是, 是”, 如果有可能的话, 别让他说不.

争辩并不是聪明的办法, 只会使对方力场更坚定, 从对方的观点出发, 设法让别人回答 “是, 是”, 那才有机会达成一致.

跟别人谈话的时候, 别一开始就谈你们意见相左的事, 不妨谈谈双方都赞同的事. 如果有可能的话, 你更应该提出自己的见解, 并告诉对方: 我们所追求的是同一个目标, 所差异的只是方法而已.

很多人没有说服别人的原因不是话讲的没道理, 而是话讲的太多.

天底下只有一个办法可以让任何人做任何事, 那就是使别人情原去做那件事. 没有别的方法.
歇力把自己的意见硬塞进别人的喉咙里, 是很差劲的做法.

凡事都去征求别人的意见, 并对他们的建议表示尊重. 这样别人就会认为你是在帮助他把想法付诸实施, 从而给予热诚的合作.

连笨蛋都不愿意你替他思考, 面对聪明的人, 你采取的办法更应该是: “我做出的选择, 是出于自己的想法.”

请常常说这句话: 如果我处在你的位置上, 也会有同样的感觉.

如果你希望人们接受你的思想, 就应该对他的想法和愿望表示同情.

没有人能容忍自己在别人眼里是不高尚的, 为此, 他们宁愿牺牲一些.

表演法比光是发表数字及谈话更生动, 更有趣, 更能表现事实, 并深入人心. 好奇和爱玩是人类的天性, 没有人会拒绝加入一个有趣的游戏, 也没有人能压抑住观赏或尝试新事物的好奇心.

在批评别人之前, 请给予真诚的赞美. 接下来不要说 “但是”, 换成 “而且”.

如果你违反了规则, 别人不批评你一句, 反而对你友好, 你自己都会不好意思, 并转而成为最遵守规则的人. 对于应该批评你的那个人, 你也会生出几分敬重, 并在任何时候支持他, 拥护他.

有些人在批评时会用旁敲侧击, 既保全了别人的面子, 又促使别人改正了错误. 这种人太少了, 只有聪明的, 有教养的人才能做到, 大部分人选择的是指责, 争吵.

你可以跳过批评的激烈言辞, 直接把改正后的好处说出. 当人们看见你是真心为他们好时, 不但乐于改正错误, 还会生出许多感激.

告诉别人你的错误和不足, 你的不完美会让人心里舒服一点.

不要以你的标准去评价他人, 你在他眼里也不见的是个完美的人.

如果不承认错误, 有时候错误会成为别人继续犯错的理由和激励.

要改变一个人而不伤感情, 请用询问来代替直接下命令.

人性的一大弱点: 爱面子. 一旦我们不给他人退路, 不让他走下台阶, 他只好使出最后一招标- 自卫. 这种自卫会伤人. 如果你保全了一个人的面子, 他会很感激. 他愿意付出一切来证明, 他是一个值得你保全的人.

如果他错了, 他自己知道, 会比你难过. 你的批评不会让他更难过, 因为那是在他的预想之内. 如果你把批评换成宽容和安慰, 那会让他感动, 愧疚, 无地自容, 同时也会对你怀有几分感激.

如果你没有某种美德就假定你有, 渐渐地你就拥有了.

既使一个人做的再差, 只要你耐心引导, 鼓励, 赞美, 他也会朝着你的标准慢慢靠拢过去.

如果你要影响一个人的行为, 且不引起他的反感, 请给予一个美名让他去保全. 没有人能容忍自己在别人心中留下一个恶劣的印象.

聪明的做法是对优秀者少加赞扬, 以防止其滋气傲生; 对落后者多加赞扬, 让其赶上和融入团队.

如果你不希望一个人继续错下去, 就不要严格地批评和责备他, 而要对他最微小的进步表示由衷的赞赏.

请求对方帮一些小忙也可以作为结识别人的最安全, 最自然的手段.

人们都喜欢字己拥有别人没有的东西, 为了要证命这个, 差不多做什么都可以.

拒绝别人使用委婉的语言以保全其面子, 并给他提供多种的选折.

如果你有担忧的问题: 一, 问自己, 可能发生的最坏情况是什么? 二,如果你必须接受的话, 那就准备接受它; 三,镇定地想出办法改善最坏的情况.

如果你不把忧虑放下, 那就准备好做它的牺牲品.

别光看到身体上的疾病而忽略了精神上的健康. 精神上的疾病会悄悄侵蚀你的身体, 带走你的活力, 甚至是夺走你的生命.

所谓 ‘过劳死’ 并不是真正的过度劳累而死, 而是被工作中的操心忧虑折磨而死.

忧虑最能伤害你的时候, 是在闲着的时候. 记得把闲着的时间占领.

常盯着缺点会牺牲掉自己和他人的快乐.

最有效的报复是以柔克刚.

获的幸福的唯一方法, 不是去期求别人的感谢, 而是在施与的过程中收获喜悦.

真正的快乐是在自己快了之前先看见别人的笑脸.

如果不那么关注自己, 转而采取一种忘我的态度, 在帮助别人的同时也是救助了自己.

送人花者, 手染花香

只要你超群出众, 你就一定会受到批评, 所以还是趁早习惯的好.

富兰克林其中四个严重的错误: 浪费时间, 拘泥小事, 爱挑别人毛病及与人争辩.

要注意收集别人对你的批评, 那来改进参考.

从那些赞赏你, 帮助你, 一味袒护你的人身上学不到什么; 相反, 从那些排斥你, 跟你争论的人身上倒能学到很多.

所有人的终点都是死亡, 人生没必要急匆匆地赶路.

休息是要预防疲劳, 在每一次花费大精力之前, 好好休息. 休息的多, 反而能做更多的工作.
能坐不站, 能躺不坐

平凡的人, 对小小的批评就会怒发冲冠; 聪明的人, 则会借着它提升自己.

当人们感到厌倦的时候, 容易感到疲倦.

假装对你的工作很感兴趣, 你就会产生真的兴趣, 然后就不再感觉到那么疲劳, 紧张和忧虑.

人的兴趣有一部分是天生的, 有一部分是后天培养的.

共同兴趣是夫妻情感的纽带, 缺少了它, 平淡的生活会让两个人渐渐疏远, 最终形同陌路.

女人越是成为工作中, 思想上及爱情和娱乐的理性伙伴, 男人就越珍视家庭.

婚姻的成功, 不只是寻找一个合适的人, 更多的是自己如何做一个合适的人.

言语的毒药, 比毒蛇还猛烈, 一旦你的伴侣被它咬伤, 婚姻就绝无生还的希望.

不喜欢批评是人类的共同心理. 既使一个人要求你挑他的毛病, 如果你真的挑出了什么实质问题, 他还是很难接受的. 在婚姻中, 人更是不理性. 其实, 你只要赞美, 对方会因为你的爱而主动改变自己.

一个聪明的妻子, 总是用温柔的话语打动丈夫.

男人的天性, 是他要一种强势的感觉. 女人应该在中意的男人面前, 一面做个独力的女性, 一面牢记自己是个女人.

男人生来就喜欢扮演救世主的角色.

女人渴望被关心, 被关注, 被宠爱, 如果从你这里得不到, 她要么会陷于痛苦的深渊, 要么会从别人那里去寻求.

只要费点心思去讨好妻子, 70%的婚姻都会很幸福 – 与此相比, 创业成功的概率是非颠倒30%

如果你想要男人开心一点, 就不要表现的那么能干 – 即使你真的很能干.

人们倾向于对待一位客人总比对待自己的家人礼貌的多.

婚姻中一方能够做到的, 是帮助另一方, 找出生命中最深切的渴望, 然后与他齐心协力, 搏击梦想.

许多男人不幸的根源, 是因为背后有一个野心勃勃的女人, 推动他做不喜欢或不擅长的事.

如果你想毁掉丈夫: 一, 对他的女秘书恶言恶语; 二, 多往他的办公室打电话; 三, 和他同事的太太产生一些磨擦; 四, 告诉他薪水太低而且公司不看重他; 五, 指导他的工作; 六, 举行豪华舞会, 挥霍他的钱财; 七, 聘请私人侦探侦察他; 八, 向丈夫的老板献媚; 九, 在公司宴会里多喝点酒; 十, 不让他出差. 结果: 你丈夫失去了他的工作, 而你失去了你的丈夫.

相爱, 不是彼此注视, 而是望向同一个方向.

即使你的另一半有缺陷, 你还是要鼓励他. 别人已经毫不留情地告诉他真相了, 不需要你再来一层打压.

使丈夫普遍受到欢迎: 一, 使他受人喜爱; 二, 掩盖他的缺陷, 表现出他的才华; 三, 改变话题, 让他表现出自己最大的优点.

一味的要求不能使男人进步, 最好的办法是鼓励他.

与人生的得失相比, 患难与共的那份情感更可珍贵.

何权峰一笑天下无难事的辛福

2008-10-16T04:40:00.000-07:00

如果问题解决得了, 何必担心?如果问题解决不了, 何必担心? 担心永远是多余的.

第七章 and 第八章

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第七章打动人心的最佳方式是跟他谈他最珍贵的事物

注意观察顾客的举止, 观透他们的心理
谈话中要投其所好, 在愉快的谈话中达到自己的目的, 是推销之上策
抓住感情链中的一环,关心别人, 征服对方的心
要说服别人, 先提问了解对方的需要和目标, 提问要针对对方, 将问问题加以扩展.
要说服别人, 引导大家一其提出并选择解决办法
要说服别人,要帮助对方把他们认为最有价值的优先清理出来
要帮顾客把产品成功之处明确起来, 投资了多少, 使用寿命有多长, 保修年限有多少. 要尽量把他们数字, 具体化.
谈判时不应该争论, 争论很少会使人真心诚服, 避免损害竟争对手的声誉
尽量满足顾客在产品之外的心理需求
如果有人提出不符合实际的抗议时, 不防将对方的问题夸大其严重性, 可以削弱他的气势

第八章之后, 可以还书了. Thanks to Poon, for the sharing and generosity!

第八章有教大家进行恋爱的技巧:

抓住机会, 适时表明态度, 不要放纵自己的感情, 做出有失检点的事来
要 ‘谈’ 恋爱来增加了解和培养感情
运用一些模糊的语言
把真实的自我放在对方的面前
欲速则不达, 瓜熟蒂自落
宽怒和感激是获的挚爱的一大秘决.

第六章更巧妙地说服, 更艺术地批评

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批评是没有用的, 因为你会令人防备心加重. 批评也是危险的, 他会伤害一个人的自尊, 并激起反抗
说服别人: 一定要强调利益, 探索分歧的原因, 解释为什么要提问, 陈述为什么结论有理, 事先准备可能遇到的问题
先努力探询对方的希望, 才能顺利达成自己的目的
尽量对他的想法和愿望表示同情, 所有的人都渴望得到同情
批评不可以直接说 “你错了”, 要改成疑问式. 将批评由第一人(我)改成第三人(大家), 就事论事, 不要攻击对方的人格
批评的目的是要帮助对方成长, 做的更好. 先赞扬, 再说比较令人不愉快的事
争论的主动权: 把对方的争论进行比喻, 把对手的观点与别人的失败作对比, 要求出示证据, 在原则上同意, 在细节上反对,强行插话,否定一切,怀疑对手的动机, 求助于在场的其他人

第五章欣赏别人, 用言行提升你的魅力

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使人愉快的魅力是一笔巨大的财富
尽量欣赏别人, 让别人感到愉快. 我们每个人总是在寻找那些能发现和提高我们价值的人
得体的微笑表示一种力量和涵养
所有非凡的人, 都会在和普通人接近之时, 故意拿自己开玩笑, 让别人感到自己比他优越

第四章宽容地对待每个人

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想和人融洽相处, 就多多附和别人. 不必要的争论, 不仅会使你丧失朋友, 还会浪费你大量时间. 让别人正确, 使自己快乐
尽量把批评转变成容忍和尊重, 将吹毛求庇改掉
胸怀宽广, 讲大局, 讲风格, 讲团结, 为一个共同的目标而努力
掌握员工的思想动态, 防患于未然, 消除人们之间的隔阂
对别人不要求太高, 要小事糊涂, 大事明白. 水至清则无鱼
不论你怎么指责别人, 他决不会同意你, 因为你伤了他的感情.不要追究别人的错误
不要浪费一分钟, 去想那些不喜欢的人或事, 不要把怀恨放在心上
宽怒和原谅那些曾经伤害你的人会给你带来一种身心的和平, 更加健康
同情冒犯你的人, 因为他们也许无知, 恐惧或病苦
我们和人交往, 合作, 关键是要充分利用别人的优势, 充分发挥对方的优势 ,案从而给自己提供方便
不要为批评而难过, 要积极理解别人的批评
学会感谢, 感谢四周的事和人

第三章得体处世, 用思想的力量塑造自己

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人情是一张支票
在生活中要避免犯自毁前途的错误: 骄傲自大, 孤立无援, 不顾后果, 过分好胜
有可能造成不必要的分歧时就要保持沉默. 有疑问时就遵从你的心.如果因为遵从你的心而做错了事, 不会觉的太难过.
主动认错, 更巧妙的解决问题
强调彼此的共同点, 寻求双赢的解决之道, 尽可能的引人说是, 不要一直的强调自己的正确, 给对方一个台阶下.

第二章用真情和爱心去诚待朋友和身边的人

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真正关心和喜欢别人的人会无往不利: 待人诚恳, 热爱人类; 觉得自己被人爱的感觉, 比其他任何东西都能提高人的热情
努力用行动去表达你的爱, 热爱自己; 先施与, 后受获; 把爱献给他人; 充分信任是最好的爱
生活本身不是一个目标, 而只是你走向某个目标的过程. 目标的实现要靠一步步地走, 如果每一步都走的扎实而有意义, 这就意味生活.
对他人感兴趣, 就能和别人愉快相处
请别人给你帮忙, 使对方觉的自己重要
牢记他人的名字是获得好感的简单方发
专心听别人讲话, 鼓励别人谈自己成就
让你的朋有表现得比你更优越
在职场一定要努力控制好自己的情绪, 人与人之间的情绪是会互相感染的
冷淡和不显露感情不是成熟的标志

读书报告 Dale Carnegie 1

2008-09-22T05:14:00.000-07:00

书看了两章才看书名, 真是受不了自己- 卡耐基人际关系心理学 THE CREAM OF DALE CARNEGIE’S INTERPERSONALT RELATION PSYCHOLOGY. 为了让我如期看完, 就在这里写读书报告.不然AH POON会向我追书, 那会很烦 (指AH POON 哈!哈!).

第一章, 悉心构筑和维护健康有益的人际关系

一定要重视团结协作, 互相帮助
你可以不欣赏, 不喜欢他, 但你不可以轻视他
要学会自信和主动地和人交往
要尽量去结交那些卓越的人士: 尽可能结交优于自己的人, 并朝目标而努力; 别亲近赞扬缺点的人们
承担自己的责任, 珍视他人的自由:一旦他们发现你在试图对他们施压, 或在操纵他们, 你与他之间的关系和信任就会受到損害
挤时间交朋友, 重视小事情, 切忌斤斤计较, 接受帮助
树立在人际交往方面积积心态:重塑心中偶像, 使自己的言行像他; 把自己看成胜利者; 学会用美好的心情去感染别人; 学会给予和奉献;
心怀感激; 不要经常说消极词语; 学会自我激励
培养合作精神:你需要别人的帮助来前进和感到成功; 把合作当成一个成功策略; 学会重视别人; 为别人成功而高心;学会欣赏别人
扩大你的社交活动, 提高你的知名度

Next Time Will Make These Again

2008-08-16T05:22:00.001-07:00

What is life: Eat, Sleep, Work and Eat....

Another BirthDay in July

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Birth Day - lunch at TGI (Thursday)

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对马来西亚政府的期望 2008

2008-06-15T05:22:00.000-07:00

对马来西亚政府的期望：

摒弃固打心态 - 奖学金须依据绩效颁发, 固打制让马来西亚教育的绩效目标完全失败
所有的计算都要公开，以便人民都能了解国家的财富。明白作为石油净出口国的马来西亚为何不能享受低廉油。其他国家没有油田，都可以善用资源，我国自己有油田，却没有妥善地管理自己的财富（中东的石油输出国除了石油，就只有一堆沙）。
扩大社会安全网络, 提升公共交通系统。政府应透明化处理所有税收，将部分的税收用来发展基建设施和建立综合公共交通系统
政府检讨和修改现有的德士执照分发和营运系统，因为德士执照一般上只发给那些有政治联系的土著人士，但一些人获颁执照后将执照外租，以致衍生更多问题。公共巴士、电车、甚至是火车专用道，而渡轮服务也应大大提升及延长至24小时。政府应致力改善公共交通，而不是花更多钱，让更多个人交通工具挤上公路。
立刻开放市场与执照，让太阳能产品、燃料电池、个别风力水力产品等进口，尽快让人民变换代替能源，而且是个别的不受企业控制。
停只抢夺我们的财产，因为国油是属于国家的，不是私人企业或上市公司。国油这个大水喉被关紧之后，很多上亿的贪污案件应该可以大大地减少，因为国油是国家最赚钱的公司，没有任何其他公司可以媲美，很多贪污和无意义的巨款也是从这里拨出去的。只要国油变得更透明，我们才可以理解国家的最富有的资产还剩下多少，如何被分配，用在哪里，有多少用在朋党的亏钱公司，有多少浪费在贪污等等。
公司享有双重减免，鼓励公司为员工加薪
我国今年的通膨率可达5%左右。我国的隔夜利率仍维持在3.5%，国内银行的定期存款利率也大约停留在3.5%。随着我国通膨率攀升至5%，我们在银行的存款，可说是负数回酬。这也就是说，银行所给予存款利息，比通膨率来得低。
乐龄退休人士在餐馆用餐或是其他消费方面，享有半价的优惠
政府也应该调低医药费和教育费，减轻人民的负担
那些官僚的程序全给废除，才能造福人民。政府越拖太久，国家经济与人民肯定是受害者
选出能人精英来管理国家，无能的国阵政府应该下台
不要当人民是笨蛋:

政府在2006年提高油价时，曾信誓坦坦地承诺，将利用省下来的40亿元改善公共交通的设施。但直到现在却不见有何改善
政府没有遵守诺言，说好今年八月才有可能涨价，却又突然隔天在上周宣布起价. 至于政府是否还会每月调整油价，则阿都拉不愿置评. 政府出尔反尔，一点信用都没有。
油价涨价，政府连发出许多非常有“魄力”的政策，改变许多人的生活。没远见的政府往往出现问题都只采纳暂时或临时性的应对方案。 Sad. 政府也没有在提升公共交通、交通运输业及替代能源上有所作为, sad.
与其他石油出口国比较，马来西亚很明显是油价最贵的国家. 但我们被告知与其他没有生产石油国的比较（有个东西叫互联网，internet）
政府时常挥霍浪费在许多人民无法受益及华而不实的政策上如太空人计划、国油双峰塔、一级方程式赛车跑道等等. 国民服务计划仓促地推行，不只浪费国家资源，执行至今已有16人死亡和许许多多的问题如强奸案，打架事件等等层出不穷
国际油价暴涨为国油带来数十亿元的利润，其间的关系是那么显著。可是这些利润却只富了朋党和其家人，而且国油的账目是不公开的，连国会也不被允许知道。（感觉像家里进贼）
将道路经营与管理权，有条件的让给“大盗”公司。让人民有完没完的付出惨重过路费，但一出大道，又要塞车？因为出了大道，就是政府管理的“羊肠小道”。
马币7万2000到马币22万6380的“娱乐”津贴就算扣了10％还有马币6万4800元到20万3746元. 请问我们这些升斗小民，有多少人有能力每年花这笔钱去旅行.

你要怎样的政府？不善于管理，没远见，那不是无能是什么？Let's Change for Good!

值得去的地方- 柬卜寨 Cambodia / Angkor Wat

2008-05-19T05:49:00.000-07:00

Photo: Smiling Faces of The Bayon, Angkor Wat

写了最不希望到的地方，也该写写最值得去的地方- 柬卜寨 Cambodia。柬卜寨是个很贫苦的国家，但她的人民却很爱笑。如果你有钱想做好事，又要有回报，那应该到Cambodia – Seam Reap 的 Angkor Wat （吴哥）去帮忙鼓吹她的旅游业，帮帮当地的小孩。

Photo (Top Right): 我不知道她的家人在那里，我知道她会在路旁坐一天。她允许我为她拍照，她没向我要钱。在身边的是她儿子，摇篮和肚子里分别还有两位。

Photo: 早上上课，下课讨生活的小孩。不管生活多苦，都会对你薇笑。

Photo: 吴哥的神秘，是连万里长城都没有的。

不希望到的地方 Kuala Lumpur - Pudu Street, Malaysia

2008-05-18T23:55:00.000-07:00

2008 May 17, 为了参加朋友的婚礼，再次搭巴士到吉隆坡 Kuala Lumpur。真是对不起自己，说过不会再搭KL巴士,却没做到。既来之，则安之，好好重温旧日的恶梦。 Pudu Station, Petaling Street 十年如一，一点都没改善。交通一样遭，人一样粗，地方一样脏。适逢Vesak Day 假期，Pudu Station 更加拥挤，巴士公司份份开高价。德士（出租车）司机也说假日不用计算机，开口乱叫价。Petaling Street 大致上也没变，只是多了很多外国人做买卖，少了很多华人的唐人街。我再一次希望，以后不要搭巴士到 KL，最好不需到Pudu。

Photo: Non-Chinese China Street / Petaling Street

Photo: Bus stop and food stall side-by-side

Photo: Crossing a roundabout

Photo: One way/direction roundabout near Pudu Station

7 Days Taiwan RM2588 (exclude shopping $), 14th – 20th Apr 2008

2008-04-22T00:38:00.000-07:00

吃马来西亚没有的食物：凤梨释迦，官才板，台湾峰王浆，　赤红灵芝水，苦瓜凤梨蜂蜜汁，爱文芒果，释迦凤梨，牛肉面，阿宗面线，鱿鱼梗庚，千层芒果牛奶冰，干蘑菇，＋＋
超爱　千层芒果牛奶冰，干蘑菇，牛肉面，新竹米粉，凤梨　
台湾男人多，摩托车多，垃圾桶少，　改种水果多
化妆室／盥洗室免付费，绿灯人车同行
导游陈大象讲很多老蒋，宋美玲，邵族故事。把台湾赞的一支棒。

行程：
Day 1台北一乐园酒店
桃园机场Taiwan Taoyuan International Airport http://www.taoyuanairport.gov.tw/
西门町夜市

Day 2宜兰 -香格里拉休闲农场
自由广场National Taiwan Democracy Memorial Hall
宗烈祠 Matyr’s Shrine
国立故宫博物院 National Palace Museum http://www.npm.gov.tw/

野柳地质公园 Yehliu Geopark
九份 – 昔日金矿产区 Chiufen
香格里拉休闲农场 – 宜兰 shangrila leisure farming http://www.shangrilas.com.tw/

Day 3花莲 -黄金海岸国统大饭店
南天 Nanfangao Nantien temple

太鲁阁国家公园Taroko National Park http://www.taroko.gov.tw/ （长春祠 – 飞瀑）
东西横贯公路

苏花公路（北回归线标塔，一望无际的太平洋）

鹿胎（紫河车）& 阿美族Ami cultural villages aboriginal dance and song

Day 4高雄 – 信宗酒点
佛光山http://www.fgs.org.tw/
春秋阁，生龙活虎两巨塔
文武庙
爱河乘船
Day 5台中 – 双星酒店
日月潭
孔雀园
麒麟峰碳酸温泉 http://www.kylin-peak.com.tw/
逢甲夜市，大学
伍角船板- 一个女人盖的房子http://www.five-dime.com.tw/

Day 6桃园 -桃园饭店
Theme Park Leo Foo Village http://www.leofoo.com.tw/
101大楼Tallest building in the world
World’s fastest elevator 1010 M/min, 37 seconds, 89 floor, 91 floor 390m, world’s largest wind damper 660 tons

铁木真蒙古烤肉

Photo Album:

Taipei 101 http://picasaweb.google.com/osk803/Taipei101
Taiwan Streets & Signs http://picasaweb.google.com/osk803/TaiwanStreetNSign
Taiwan Food http://picasaweb.google.com/osk803/TaiwanFood
Taiwan Places of Interests http://picasaweb.google.com/osk803/TaiwanAttractions
Taiwan Gang xxx

Connie's blog on Taiwan http://lconnie.blogspot.com/ (May 2008)

故事

2008-04-11T09:08:00.000-07:00

二零零八年，三月十日，凌晨时分，电话传来他入院急救的消息。那晚，他只喊我的名字一声。早上七时多，他太太哭着对我说：“他走了” 。他今年三十一，留下一名妻子及两名年幼的儿子。有屋，有车，有地，有博士学位，有事业，只是没时间，和很多遗憾。他要我替他照顾老爸及大姨，因为他做不到。

他选择了基督教仪式，他是在一年前得病后皈依基督教。家人除了惊讶之外，无话可说。这不是他第一次让大家惊讶。

一起生活二十多年的亲人，突然变得十分陌生。一次又一次的谎言，让我有了疑心。老爸最后说了一句：“就少了个儿子” 。老妈得病临终前，也哭了很多遍。大家很难接受，他为什么会变成另一个人。

“以前的他很听话，常帮忙作家务，读学院时很节俭，每周末都会回家，大家都说他是个好儿子”。“工作之后，他久久才回家看我们，认识女友不到半年就说要结婚，我们没法子，只好让他作主” 。“婚后的他一直很忙，新年才能见一面。不久他说要向家里拿钱，说他要买地投资，后来又说要借钱读书。我要他承诺照顾还在求学的弟弟，他不敢答应, 我也没答应给他钱” 。“第一个孙子出世后他依然很忙，他很照顾儿子，只是没时间看爸妈，我们也是新年才见孙子一面” 。

“爸妈一点都不支持我，要结婚不行，要借钱不行，要读书也不行。他们只听别人说。别人有车有屋子，我呢？租女友哥哥的房子，驾女友的车。好！你们不支持，我要靠自己，证明你们是错的” 。这短短的几句，让妈妈哭了很多回，很多年。

夹在他和爸妈之间，我需要解释很多：解释他工作压力大，工作读书顾家忙；解释两老只是担心儿子负担太多，还需要存钱给小儿子的学费。我的解释一点作用也没有，他们心中还是有个结。直到有一方病了，见面的时间才多了。希望他们的心结，随着死亡而解开。

Rest In Peace - A 14th Feb Memorial Wish from me

2008-02-17T05:08:00.000-08:00

生老病死是不变的事实，癌症cancer 是死亡的其中一个原因。据研究人员的估计，全球癌症主要由9种危险因素所引起，如果减少这些危险因素，也就可以极大地减少死亡。这9种危险因素是：吸烟、酗酒、肥胖、劣质饮食、不安全的性、城市空气污染、室内燃煤烟雾、肝炎和缺少锻炼。

除了以上所提的因素，我很认同这篇文章所说的“癌症性格”http://news.xinhuanet.com/st/2005-03/17/content_2708283.htm . 我认识的癌症病人就有这癌症性格。很多激励名言都说性格主宰成功，原来性格也主宰健康，主宰生死。

"癌症性格的具体表现是：性格内向，表面上逆来顺受、毫无怨言，内心却怨气冲天、痛苦挣扎，有精神创伤史；情绪抑郁，好生闷气，但不爱宣泄；生活中一件极小的事便可使其焦虑不安，心情总是处于紧张状态；表面上处处牺牲自己来为别人打算，但内心又不情愿；遇到困难，开始时不尽力去克服，拖到最后又要做困兽之斗；害怕竞争、逃避现实，企图以姑息的方法来达到虚假和谐的心理平衡。"

MORE 有关癌：

故事- 癌症的过程 http://xk.cn.yahoo.com/articles/070629/1/wt3.html
癌症爱糖http://www.thedietchannel.com/Cancer-and-Diet-Does-Sugar-Feed-Cancer.htm
癌症与酸性/缺氧http://articlesofhealth.blogspot.com/2007/11/acidic-choice-is-cause-of-cancer.html

你身边有没有患癌的亲人或朋友，许多癌症病种都是消耗性的，折腾得你骨瘦如柴、筋疲力尽，而不让你一下了断。化疗时呕吐、脱发已经让人痛不欲生，癌痛的那种苦楚，更是任何人不能替代。癌症的痛苦是会传染的，至今我还感觉到那种无奈。 Reminder: 你可以以癌症来结束生命，但不要伤害身边的人，请照顾自己的健康，停止吸烟，停止污染。

Does the quote apply to you? Just to release tension and not for real!

2008-01-31T05:36:00.000-08:00

"If you work just for money, you’ll never make it, but if you love what you’re doing and you always put the customer first, success will be yours." - Hamburger King” Ray Kroc (1902-1984)
::When we have started to love our jobs, we are reassigned a new job. Have to start another love (Boss said: this is a new challenge, new assignment). Sometimes, we have no choice but to love so many jobs at a time, do not blame us for being unfaithful (Boss said: we should do multitask, is fully utilised).

"I am always doing things I can’t do, that’s how I get to do them."-- Pablo Picasso (1881-1973),
::Most of the time i am asked to do things that i can do at my job, this is called routine work.

“Making the simple complicated is commonplace; making the complicated simple, awesomely simple, that’s creativity.” -- Charles Mingus (1922-1979).
::Usually my manager will say the thing is too simple and not impressive enough.

"I have nothing to offer but blood, toil, tears and sweat." - Winston Churchill
::I' ll tell my boss this the next time he ask me to work over time without pay.

"There are a lot of things that go into creating success. I don't like to do just the things I like to do. I like to do things that cause the company to succeed. I don't spend a lot of time doing my favorite activities." - Michael Dell
::mmmm.....Micheal Dell said so because he owns the company.

"Genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration. Accordingly a genius is often merely a talented person who has done all of his or her homework." Thomas Edison
::If we achive that 99:1 porpotion, it is most probably 99% perspiration and 1% resting, or 99% perspiration and 1% celebration

"Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life." - Wayne Dyer
::This might be the reason why we always complain of poorness.

"Do what you love. When you love your work, you become the best worker in the world." - Uri Geller
::But first i need to find the enbling employer.

Trip to Seam Reap (Angkor Wat) and Phnom Penh (PP) Cambodia, 13th -18th Jan 2008

2008-01-19T18:34:00.000-08:00

My travel photo album:
http://picasaweb.google.com/osk803/CambodiaBnW
http://picasaweb.google.com/osk803/CambodiaCulture
http://picasaweb.google.com/osk803/CambodiaAngkorWat
http://www.kodakgallery.com/ShareLandingSignin.jsp?Uc=fxvsxsp.7ejz2yh&Uy=-nwcb6u&Upost_signin=Slideshow.jsp%3Fmode%3Dfromshare&Ux=1 (invitation ONLY)

http://www.canbypublications.com/ provides good info and guidance for SR & PP. You can get map for Seam Reap http://www.canbypublications.com/siemreap/srmapspage.htm and map for Phnom Penh http://www.canbypublications.com/maps/ppmaphhr.htm there.

Suggested Itinerary:

Day 1
Check In- Lunch – Visit Angkor Thom (South Gate, Bayon, Terrace of Elephants, Terrance of Leper King, etc.) & Floating Village for sun set – Dinner – Central Market - Night Market

Day 2
Sunrise in Angkor Wat – Visit Grand Tour Circuit (Preah Khan, Neak Pean, Ta Som, East Mebon, Pre Rup) – Lunch – Visit Ta Prohm, Banteay Kdei, Sras Srang, Ta Keo – Balloon Ride for Sun Set – Dinner in Town

Day 3
Visit Banteay Srey & Banteay Samre – Lunch – Cultural Village – Dinner & Apsara Dance

Day 4
Old Market – Post Office –Lunch – 1pm Bus to Phnom Penh – Reached PP at 6pm – Check In – Dinner

Day 5
Visit Killing Field - Russian Market – Toul Sleng Museum – National Museum - Wat Phnom – Royal Palace & Silver Pagoda

Day 6
Central Market – Fly back

Money $$$ Spend in USD (excluding fair for flight KL-SR RM144.50 PP-KL RM36.50)

Some info for sharing:

The Weather: Nov-Feb: cool & dry & sunny & dusty; Mar-May: hot & dry; Jun-Aug: hot and wet; Sep-Oct: cool & wet (best for photographing)
Visit Butterfly Garden Restaurant for lunch in SR
I like the Express Fast Food Restaurant (petrol station & covenient ctore in SR, opposite Hotel de la Paix)
Go to the Dead Fish Tower for dinner & Apsara dance - reasonable price and unique architcture
When arrive in SR & PP, ask for hotel/guest house free pickup
1USD = 4000riel, you can find 1USD = 4100riel in PP
Water is expensive in Cambodia. You can get 1 canned drink for 0.5USD in AW area, 1USD in town

Book Review: To Change or NOT to Change - Career

2008-01-06T05:51:00.000-08:00

Advice from Glen Hiemstra in "Turning the Future into Revenue"

First ask yourself,

Could the work that i do be done more cheaply elsewhere in the world?
Could the work that i do someday be done by smart machines?
Do you want to do the same things for the rest of your working life?

Advice for those to stay or to change,

Become more technologically competent
Improve your communication skills
Complexify yourself, join the future world

解梦 Interpreting my Dreamsss

2008-01-05T17:55:00.000-08:00

这两天精神不好，多亏那奇奇怪怪的梦。人为什么会做梦？梦境与现实有没有关联？不管这些，先上网解梦：

中 http://health.sohu.com/bytalk/dream/read/about.htm 英 http://www.freedreaminterpretation.co.uk/letter,f.html 版会有些出入，解了两个梦：

梦1：周公说在物质方面将有幸运事发生，真的好期待！阿英说：需要面对一些压抑的回忆和情绪。也提醒我不要借钱给人，会伤感情。两件事都没关联。
梦2：周公安慰我梦中注定有人疼爱 (干嘛要说梦中？)；阿英提我要小心经营BUSINESS。。。

公有公说，婆有婆说。。。我说最好没做梦，让我一觉到天亮。

Animal vs Human

2007-12-26T05:20:00.000-08:00

七早八早就到动物园一游，希望能避开人群。没有人群的动物园是摄影的天堂，这句话是当真。看着一群吵吵闹闹的人群，心里会开始怀疑 - 人与动物的区别。当天我的汽车给人喷脏水，真的希望那是动物所为。叹！

Recent reading from 'The 33 Strategies of War' by Robert Greene:
Despite human progress, there is always a part of us that remains animal, and that animal part can respond only to what is most immediate in our environment - it is incapable of thinking beyond the moment. Be focus on your ultimate goal and plot to reach it; be human, not animal.

癌神

2007-12-15T04:36:00.000-08:00

今天拜访一位患癌的人，他告诉我：我信奉宗教了。他曾经是位无神论者，癌症改变了他。对他来说，有信仰是件好事，参加宗教活动让他认识很多关心他的教友。在他身体出现问题及接受治理时得到别人的关切，对他的病会很有帮助。

新的医学研究表明，信仰宗教的人普遍比其他人更为健康而且长寿。
他们的免疫系统功能也比其他的好；他们的血压比其他低；他们患中风、抑郁症、心脏病和产生焦虑不安情绪的可能性也比其他小；他们自杀的可能性更是远小于普通人。
美国癌症协会（American Cancer Society）最近宣称：“即病人可以通过向现实或虚幻的造世主诉说痛苦来寻求安慰。认为已经有了确切答案的想法，即“可以从祈祷中寻找到答案”的观点使许多医学界人士深感不安，哪怕这个“答案”只是源于个人的潜心思考。

对他的病，我爱莫能助，只能默默的祝福。-_-

Yoga

2007-12-01T22:23:00.000-08:00

Can't remember when exactly i started practising yoga. Perhaps in April 2007 (Connie might be able to recall for me). Many thanks to my first instructor, Mayer and also to my yoga mates. They are fun & helpful (Szeling, Isabelle and Connie, dont stop practising). Hope to meet them again.

Need help in performing the head stand !!!

Love Curse

2007-12-01T16:11:00.000-08:00

..."I can't be calm when facing him. For other guys that i like, they remind me of him. For those i've rejected, they have nothing in common with him. It is radiculous of me for thinking of him that i've no longer know. Technically, this is an undefined problem, the s-field formula suggests that this is not solvable:

This bad sector requires memory erasure or formatting. God! please send someone for rescue!"...

不听，不讲，不看，不能不想

2007-12-01T00:42:00.000-08:00

不听，不讲，不看，不能不想 - 酸甜苦辣

酸: 他/她欣赏别的女/男生；爱人结婚了，新娘/郎不是我；他/她累/辛苦了

甜: 他/她的细心/付出；成就感

苦: 钱不够用；他/她的菜/笑话很烂

辣: 难搞的工作/客人/老板

贵人

2007-11-27T07:26:00.000-08:00

我们生命中的贵人实在太多了，或许我们也不会记得那么多，但我们一路走来，确实许多人在我们身边有形无形的帮我们，生命中的贵人不一定是正面帮我们的人，得罪我们的人、激励我们的人，只要让我们继续往前走的人，都是贵人不是吗？

吃醋 Jealousy

2007-11-27T03:07:00.000-08:00

吃醋，心里必然是酸酸的，涩涩的。这酸涩里面，有一丝妒忌有一丝苦楚有一丝怅然有一丝埋怨。为什么会吃醋，可能是因为人多少都有点占有欲吧。

最酸的感觉是吃醋吗？NO，最酸溜溜的感觉是没有资格吃醋，根本就轮不到你吃醋，那才是最酸最酸的。有人说：舍弃了的东西是最有价值的，吃不到葡萄也不是最酸的，而是太甜了，甜的你不敢想，唯有说是酸的。希望下一次听见他的消息时，可以大声说葡萄是甜的。

最爱 My Love

2007-11-21T07:45:00.000-08:00

其实你谁也不爱，你只爱自己；爱自己的欲望、希望梦想，我爱这个人是因为我期待他能实现我的理想，一但他的行为与态度与我所要的背道而驰，所有的爱就消失不见，所以我不是爱别人，而是爱自己。

我们常在许多时候感叹，世间没有完美的爱恋与情人，却忽略了自己要的到底是人还是神明；常常希冀著完美浪漫的恋情，却忽略了浪漫和现实难以相容的部分。我们常常爱上了感觉，爱上了默契，爱上了浪漫，却不一定爱这个人孰不知你该爱的是因为他是你的选择。
没有人生来是完美无缺的，如果你真的爱上一个完美无缺的人，那么在往后的相处日子里你们还有什么成长的空间呢？

有点长的佛心慧语 - Part 7 (final)

2007-11-21T06:23:00.001-08:00

不要因为小小的争执，远离了你至亲好友。不要因为小小的怨恨，忘记了别人的大恩。
人好刚我以柔胜之，人好术我以诚感之。盛喜勿许人物，盛怒勿答人书。
有真才者必不矜才，有实学者必不夸学。动于欲，欲迷则昏。任乎气，气偏则戾。
无事时戒一偷字，有事时，戒一乱字。声名谤之媒也，欢乐悲之渐也。善用威者不轻怒，善用恩者不妄施。言多必失，说话要精简。若心有定，说你好，说你坏，都一样。举世尽从忙里过，谁人肯向死前休。
什么是空？难舍能舍，看得破，放得下即是空，空是自在安详义。
这个身体，只是借我们暂住而已，如房屋，无常一到，就要搬家，切勿执著。
有时候，我们要冷静问自己，我们在追求什么？我们活著为了什么？大贫亦是大富，一无所有、了无牵挂，宁静谈泊、恬然自得。
花开、花谢，生死、死生，人的真实生命在哪里？
正人行邪法，邪法亦正；邪人行正法，正法亦邪。未曾生我谁是我，生我之时我是谁？长大成人方是我，合眼朦胧又是谁？
有一位皇帝，登上城墙说：“这么多人，国必强胜”，高僧说：“我只见到两个人，一个贪名，一个图利”。逆来顺受，顺来忍受。要自觉、自悟，佛在心中。执著近于迷惑。行、住、坐卧，皆是道场，因为道在心中，非在外面。学问以勤习为入门。

有点长的佛心慧语 - Part 6

2007-11-21T06:21:00.000-08:00

多数人在缘生缘灭中，搞不清楚自己的去来。
凡事要随缘，不要攀缘。佛陀从不勉强别人，做不喜做的事情，他只告诉众生，何者善？何者恶？生命还是要自己掌握。
学佛不是对死亡的一种寄托，而是当下就活得自在和超越。
错误必生烦恼，罪恶终归毁灭。
佛法是什么？佛法既现实又超越，既超越又现实。
给人希望，不要给人绝望。舍（放下）尽一切（包括烦恼），当下自在。
海阔纵鱼跃，天高任鸟飞。能容纳异己的存在，才能成就自己的伟大。
人常想病日，则尘念自息。人常想死日，则道念自生。
无法去除内心的烦恼，纵然遍游世界，也得不到快乐。
法律是事后追诉，但伤害已成事实，因果是事先防范，能杜渐防微。
善恶之间，总在一念。一念错，全盘皆输。
感谢上苍，我所拥有的，感谢上苍，我所没有的。
勇于接受别人的批评，正好可以调整自己的缺点。
行善不求回报，无缘（条件）大慈，同体大悲是圣者之行。上德不德，下德执德。
人之所以平凡，在于无法超越自己。
忍辱多福。名字有什么相干？我们叫做玫瑰的，叫任何别的名字，仍然一样芬芳。
吵闹处，须冷静。冷落处，须热情。
古今庸人，败于“惰”字。古今才人，败于“傲”字。
事无难易，惟心坚忍可成矣！所谓金刚非坚，愿力唯坚。
人命呼吸间，宜当力除偷安、懒惰。真正的苦行是修平等心。

有点长的佛心慧语 - Part 5

2007-11-21T06:20:00.001-08:00

能觉他人之诈，不形于言，受人之辱，无动于色，道成近矣！境来不拒，境去不留，一切随缘，能得自在，放下即得解脱。静坐常思已过，闲谈莫论人非。
一个常常看别人缺点的人，本身就还缓茫蛭挥惺奔浼焯肿约骸有智慧的人，永远不见他人过失。
聪明难，糊涂更难。
说话不要有攻击性，不要有杀伤力，不夸已能，不扬人恶，自然化敌为友。
心能平等，我们就能处于一个和谐的世界。
把自己的欲望降到最低点，把自己的理性升华到最高点，就是圣人。对自己的享受消极，对大众的福利积极，就是行菩萨道。
两个人吵架，甲对乙说你很主观，乙对甲说你并不客观，主客二观，无所标准，是非永远存在。
凡爱说人不是者，往镜前一站，镜中出现一个丑陋的影子，才知正是自己尊容。
知足之人，虽卧地上犹为安乐；不知足者，虽处天堂亦不称意。
山不转路转，境不转心转。世间一切，为我所用，非我所有。
觉悟真理的人，即拥有真正的生命。体会到生命无常的人，便不会再放荡和贪逸，所以说对于生命无常的觉醒是智慧的开端。
施比受更有福。彻悟本性的人，纵然全世界的人都不了解他，他依然不觉得寂寞。
起烦恼时，要回光返照──退步原来是向前。
所谓的“放下”即是把什么事都化为没有的力量。
凡事能站在别人的角度为别人着想，便是慈悲。
适当的欲望，是人类所必须的，但超过了范围，痛苦、罪恶，便如影随形。
人的价值，在于奉献与牺牲。当你心中有美时，从你眼中看到的世界将会不同。知足者虽贫而富，不知足者虽富而贫。

有点长的佛心慧语 - Part 4

2007-11-21T06:19:00.000-08:00

“禅”，就是要在心中留点空间，好作回旋失去了鸭子，你会急忙找回来，失去了良心，却不见有人着急。
心志要苦，意趣要乐，气度要宏，言动要谨。言多必失，尽量少给自己这种机会。赞叹别人，要在大庭广众；责备人，必须在私下。
有智慧的人，从周围取乐，没有智慧的人，希望别人给予快乐。
贪心，你的嘴脸，就是贫穷相。色心不除，生死不了。
有生必有死，人应惧生，不应惧死。无生即无死，究竟解脱。
忍人所不能忍，行人所不能行名“大雄”，故名“大雄宝殿”。
即佛也。作事不怕不成，只怕无恒。佛是觉悟的众生，众生是在迷的佛。一个人如果不被恶习所染，幸福近矣！笛卡儿：“我思故我在”，佛法：“我观故自在”。人必须在自我中觉醒，才能破除我执。
凡有追求，必定有烦恼。学佛就是要你，认识自己，找到永恒的生命。要做好你个人的卫生，尤其“心理卫生”最为重要。得失心不放下，想要不痛苦，都不可能。
世界上有一种生意是永远亏本，那就是发脾气。
有了智慧，自然能了解真理，能了解真理，生活自然快乐。
鱼生活在水中，所以我们见不着他的泪。真正的神通，是把烦恼弄通。是非的原则是将心比心，设身处地的为他人想一想。
健康，是真正的财富，不要糟蹋它。
佛是教育家，不是政治家。他慈悲的教导众生，从不控制众生。
是非天天有，不听自然无。
愚人求境不求心，智者求心不求境。为人正直，则与道相应。见一切人皆菩萨，唯我一人是凡夫，则心自息怒。德修而谤来。缘由愿来，愿力强，善缘自然具足。责人，先责已于人，是名君子。

有点长的佛心慧语 - Part 3

2007-11-21T06:18:00.000-08:00

千人千般苦，苦苦不相同。向人低头，不曾矮小过。
作福莫如惜福，悔过莫如寡过。量大福大。
遇顺境处之淡然，遇逆境处之泰然。风平浪静，训练不出良好的水手。
填得饱你的肚子，却填不满人心贪念。
面对现实，逆境也会变为顺境，总有机会转机。逃避现实，虽暂时偷安，但没有翻身余地。
甩掉你的假面具，你就能享受到自然的喜悦。
凡夫转境不转心，圣人转心不转境。
过去，已成过去，它只是记忆的残影。
智者知幻即离，愚者以幻为真。一念放下，万般自在。
君子成人之美，不成人之恶。
黄金无种子，惟生于勤俭之家。
世界上的每一个人都在追求快乐，但却没有人真正了解什么是快乐。知因果即知进退，知佛法即得“开心果”。菩萨以正觉为习惯，众生却以烦恼为习惯。
家里的垃圾知清倒，内心的垃圾（贪、镇、痴）不知“倒”。
学佛的孩子不变坏，学佛的老人不痴呆，学佛的少年不永不败。智者善植因果。圣人可以掌握时空，而凡夫却被时空所限制。真正的看破是提起，积极地为大众服务。
诚恳可以感动人，谦虚可以说服人。老实是很平淡的字眼，但是要想成就，就非它不行。
犯了过错，造了罪业，别人知不知道并不重要，最重要的是自己知道。
善于保护自己的，永远谦虚谈话。好、坏，都会随时间消失，没有例外。
上苍对时间的安排，绝对平等。临事须替别人想，论人先将自己想。

有点长的佛心慧语 - Part 2

2007-11-21T06:15:00.000-08:00

律已要严，待人要宽。
不要浪费你的生命，在你知道一定会后悔的地方。
怀著一颗感恩的心，忘记别人的缺点吧！
征服世界，并不伟大，一个人能征服自己，才是世界上最伟大的人。
平凡之人追求不平凡，智者则甘于平凡，却享受平凡。
能忍之人，事事称心；善镇之人，时时地狱。
与其说你赚钱，不如说你被钱所赚，因为钱赚走了你的青春、时间、体力，和生命。
有志气的人发一次愿，终身坚持。没志气的人天天发愿，浮而不实。
稻穗成熟，头自然低下。事能知足心常惬，人到无求品自高。
有才而性缓定属大才，有智而气和斯为大智。有德不在年高，无智空长百岁。
彻底的认识你自己，你就会认识佛。
因小果大，莫以恶小而为之，莫以善小而不为。
真正的布施，是把烦恼、忧虑、分别、执著，通通放下。若无“是非”挂心头，便是人间好时节。
扫地扫地扫心地，心地不扫空扫地。透视一切变化的结果都是“空”，就不会□碍任何事物。
佛性是每个人的心，所以自己就是主宰。各有因缘莫□人。肯低头的人，永远不会撞到矮门。
不让古人是谓有志，不让今人是谓无量。
生命是妄想的产物。吾爱吾师，吾尤爱真理。
不要相信权威，权威有时也会错误。为而不有，善而不居。
烦恼比岁月更易催人颜老。常常使别人过快乐日子的人，自己也必定很快乐。
想编织未来的美梦，现在正是时候。

有点长的佛心慧语 - Part 1

2007-11-21T05:47:00.001-08:00

一个人，不能了解生命，生命对他来说是一种惩罚。
改变别人，不如先改变自己。
拥有财富的人，不如拥有智慧的人。
常常原谅自己的人，往往得不到上苍的原谅。常常责备自己的人，往往能得到他人的谅解。
人很奇怪，不了解自己，却又每天想去干涉别人，弄得痛苦不堪。
人之所以痛苦，在於追求错误的东西。
有人的地方，就会有是非，把它看作很正常，你就不会难过，因为是──人嘛！
犯错是平凡的，原谅才能超凡。
任凭你有多大的快乐，无常总是来到。制心一处，无事不办。
伤人之语，如水覆地，难以挽回。大家都知道，生气是一种无知，又无济于事，可是又奈何不了它。
正因为少“悟”，放不下得失之故。
金钱化妆你的外表，佛法啓悟你的内在。五官刺激，不是真正的享受，“内在安详”，才是下手之处。
自尊太强，优越感太重的人，将不堪一击，少许逆境，足以使他彻夜难眠。
嫉妒别人，仇视异已，就等於把生命交给别人。诽谤他人就像含血喷人，先污染了自己的嘴巴。
轻信道听途说，就像一只傻狗，别人随便扔了一块石头就急忙跑去捡。
不能把握现在，就无法获得永恒。
人心不好，环保、治安，自然不好。
遇到困难时不害怕，心中无事，是名真修。
时间总会过去的。算命不如认命。
恨别人，痛苦的却是自己。

默契

2007-11-14T07:39:00.000-08:00

咖啡广告中一句「好东西要和好朋友分享」的标语，不但传诵多年，成为广告界的经典之作，同时也变成社会流行语。共同分享美好的滋味，是生命中难能可贵的经验。这一种默契，可以说是一种幸福。分享的双方，必须要有相同的慧心，才能体验出内心感受，共鸣出意在言外的真情滋味。

有些人，你说一句话，他已经明白。
有些人，你说了再说，他还是傻傻的看着你。
前者可能是你表达能力好，或是他理解能力强. 后者就相反。

也许，这些猜测都不对。他听不懂你，可能是他根本没用心听。沟通是要用心的。

有收过一位朋友的卡片，写着默契两个字。卡片不在了，但回忆和感觉还保留着。感谢曾用心了解我的朋友。

墙 Wall

2007-11-14T03:37:00.000-08:00

人问：你怎么会出现在这个世界上呢？
墙答：因为你们需要我。我为你们挡风遮雨，为你们阻挠野兽的侵袭。正因为有了我，你们才会成为世界的主人。

人问：你们为什么有时高有时低，有时坚固而又是薄弱呢？
墙答：我实在无法回答这个问题。因为是你们设计了我的形象。

人问：假如你遮住了我的视线，使我感受不到生命的快乐，你说我该怎么办。
墙答：凿穿我，在我身上开出户窗户来。

人问：加入你禁锢了我的思想，使我变得古板而又闭塞；假如你阻隔了我和其他心灵的交流，使我变得孤独而又寂寞，你说我又该怎么办？
墙答：推到我！

请享受你的忙

2007-11-12T22:01:00.000-08:00

「我应该要忙到什么时候？或者说到什么时候我才该不忙呢？」我反问。
「忙碌也是我生活的一部分，重点应在于，我喜不喜欢这样的『忙碌』。如果我喜欢，我的忙碌就应该持续下去，不是吗？」我补充著。
对我而言，忙碌不是生命的「过渡阶段」，而是我最珍贵的生命的一部分。很多人常会抱怨：「工作太忙，等这阵子忙完后，我一定要如何如何．．．」于是一个本属于生命一部分的珍贵片段，就被定义成一种过渡与等待。
「等著吧！挨著吧！我得咬著牙渡过这个过渡时期！」当这样的想法浮现，我们的生命就因此遗落了一部分。
「生命没有过渡、不能等待。」这时，老师的话就会清晰的浮现在我的耳边。所以，我总是很努力的让自己喜欢自己每一个生命阶段，每一个生命过程，因为那些过程的本身就是生命，不能重来的生命

不老的音乐 - New Age

2007-11-12T06:30:00.000-08:00

那一天终于到来， “MEMORY FULL”连接着蓝色风暴 (BLUE SCREEN)。要雨过天晴，只好删除一些电脑档案。这一场灾难竟让我找回了失去的音乐。这些新世纪音乐 (NEW AGE MUSIC) 我听了很多年，比流行曲还流行。

PROTECTED & UNDELETABLE ARTISTS' FILES：
YANNI, ENYA, DEEP FOREST, ENIGMA, ERA, GREGORIAN, KITARO, SECRET GARDEN, VANGELIS, S.E.N.S.

Mountain 回音

2007-11-12T04:37:00.000-08:00

Just in case you have never read this:

"A son and his father were walking on the mountains.Suddenly, his son falls, hurts himself and screams: "AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!"To his surprise, he hears the voice repeating, somewhere in the mountain: "AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!"Curious, he yells: "Who are you?"He receives the answer: "Who are you?"And then he screams to the mountain: "I admire you!"The voice answers: "I admire you!"Angered at the response, he screams: "Coward!"He receives the answer: "Coward!"He looks to his father and asks: "What's going on?"The father smiles and says: "My son, pay attention."Again the man screams: "You are a champion!"The voice answers: "You are a champion!"The boy is surprised, but does not understand.Then the father explains: "People call this ECHO, but really this is LIFE.It gives you back everything you say or do.Our life is simply a reflection of our actions.If you want more love in the world, create more love in your heart.If you want more competence in your team, improve your competence.This relationship applies to everything, in all aspects of life;Life will give you back everything you have given to it."
YOUR LIFE IS NOT A COINCIDENCE. IT'S A REFLECTION OF YOU!"-- Unknown Author

一手创造及毁灭生命

2007-11-07T18:10:00.000-08:00

想起金鱼，内心会有点不安。前一阵子，对养鱼兴趣十足。金鱼是很不容易养的：观察了很久，终于等到金鱼产卵的季节。一颗一颗的将鱼卵分隔，再慢慢等待。。。看见成功活过来的金鱼，是有很大的满足及快感。

说过金鱼很难养，难养是因为它们需要很多照顾。我了解自己是没耐心照顾它们，我决定把它们送给别人。后来，听说它们全部@了。

It's me that brought them into this world, and ended their life. 我不会再养鱼了。

旅行

2007-11-07T17:29:00.000-08:00

是时候策划下一个旅行，这一回将去ANGKOR WAT。一个人去旅行或是一起去一直都是我考虑的问题。成群结队旅行的问题就是要策划，要满足大家的需求，还要配合时间，兴趣，金钱。。。最近身边的朋友都告诉我有人旅游回来后就没再联络，或没朋友做。听起来还真是恐怖。

一个人去旅行的经验很不错，自由度很高。身边朋友最好奇的，当然是有没有艳遇。哈哈哈，艳遇是没有，但认识了很多陌生人。
感谢曾相遇的陌生人。

My Photo Album http://picasaweb.google.com/osk803

No Looking Back 人生路，是不能回头的

2007-11-07T07:47:00.000-08:00

时间是往前走的，钟不可能倒著转，所以一切事只要过去，就再也不能回头。
回头是危险的，一边跑一边回头的人绝对跑不快，而且容易摔倒；总是回头缅怀过去的人，就不容易开创未来。所以，这世界上即使看来像回头的事，也都是面对著完成的。就好像我们出门发现忘了带样东西，你不会倒退著走回家，而是转身回家。

「我们可以转身，但是不必回头，即使有一天，你发现自己走错了，你也应该转身，大步朝著对的方向去，而不是回头怨自己错了。」

活出自己

2007-11-07T07:46:00.000-08:00

你明明很喜欢一个人，却没有表白的勇气。
你明明很想向你的上司争取那个职位，却有一箩筐的迟疑和顾虑。
你明明很希望告诉某个讨厌的家伙再也别来烦你，却从来不敢如此痛快淋漓。
你明明很不愿意买下那件店员拚命推荐的衬衫，却又担心他会以怨恨的眼光看你。
于是你心里想的和实际去做的往往风马牛不相及，就像你明明爱吃汉堡，却老是莫名其妙地点了薯条。
因为你总是担心别人的反应。是别人的反应都只是你的虚拟而已。
你真正在应付的不是别人，是你那颗混乱不安的心。
一如站在一面镜子前，不管是正对或背对，呈现的只是个人的镜象。
你面对或逃避，终究只是自已。
希望大家能努力的活出自己！！

今天突然想起台湾畅销作家刘墉最著名的3本励志书《超越自己》、《创造自己》、《肯定自己》，就是没有活出自己。

真受不了态度消极,傲慢的人

2007-11-07T07:35:00.000-08:00

《改变态度，改变人生》一书（Change Your Attitude，麦田出版）引述查尔斯．史温道尔（Charles Swindoll）的看法：「态度比你的过去、教育、金钱、环境还来得重要。态度比你的外表、天赋或技能更重要，可以建立或毁灭一家公司。」

态度能够让你成功。当具有乐观的态度时，无论遭遇何种难题，你总会努力去解决问题；因为你相信任何困难都能够迎刃而解。具有谦虚的态度时，你永远愿意谦卑受教、追求成长；因为你相信人外有人，天外有天。具有勇敢的态度时，你不会永远躲在自己的舒适圈里寻求安全感，你会乐于接受改变、接受挑战；你的生命必定非常丰富。具有接纳的态度时，你不会浪费时间怨天尤人，你会接纳不完美，并使它成为你生命中的祝福，便有机会享受人生；你会懂得欣赏他人的优点，接纳他们与你不同的部分，你的人际关系必然会成为你生活中最大的帮助。具有大方的态度时，你不会在小事上斤斤计较，而有足够的能量在大事上追求。

身边有很多消极，傲慢的人. 有时，真的受不了。。。我想我也应该改变一下这“态度”

选择 = 诱惑

2007-11-07T07:31:00.000-08:00

一般人生活在现今繁荣的经济体系下，在任何人、事、物中都有很多的选择，
也因为有太多的选择，所以举棋不定、犹豫不决变成了大部分人的习惯。

当你看着别桌跟你吃的不一样时，你可能开始怀疑是不是他们的比较好吃？所以每当拿起菜单目录看到林林总总一大推的菜名，你只好又开始举棋不定啦！

当你看到朋友、同学日子过的不错，你可能开始怀疑自己是不是入错行、选错公司了,于是三心二意、工作不力，下场只好每况愈下。

当你逛街看到美女、辣妹，你可能怀疑自己是不是娶错老婆、交错女朋友？回家便没好脸色看！感情怎么会好？也因为选择多了，更容易使自己迷失、不知道自己要的是什么？

说出口的话 = 泼出去的水

2007-11-07T07:29:00.000-08:00

不知道从什么时候开始
我们忘掉了受伤的心需要修补
却用针去刺它
我们用了太多的道理去安慰一颗
只需要善意的心
我们学会了太多的字眼却使
我们对内心的那点情失去了踪影

人与人之间

2007-11-07T07:28:00.001-08:00

男女之间如此，朋友之间亦然。很多好朋友会为一句话句而伤了和气，损及友谊，甚至不讲话不往来。要交一个朋友，需要很长时间的培养，但是要失去一个朋友只要一秒钟。当然有人会说：「少他一个也不会死！」。是不会死，而且离死太远。只是，那样的失去，却是生命中很大的遗憾。
生命中，许多原本属于我们的幸福完美，常常因我们的轻忽而恣意挥霍，不懂得珍惜，又常常因我们的自责面子和不必要的坚持而使得良机错失，姻缘拆散，朋友反目。

成绩报告

2007-11-07T07:22:00.000-08:00

年终又快到了，每年一到11月，就是提醒大家又到了检视公司及自己. 许多主管开始为部属打考绩做准备，个人也须检视这一年来的绩效表现，做为来年重新出发的参考指标。

谨记：在职场上，苦劳不会成功，其实企业最欣赏的人才，是具有高度common sense的人，换句话说，就是要有work hard, work smart, work happy特质的A级人才。这样的人才能快速掌握主管的需求与期待，为公司开创更大的格局。

死亡

2007-11-07T06:04:00.000-08:00

很想记下我妈妈去世时的心情。她走的时候，我哭了。我一向都很眼浅。哭是因为难过她的离去，也是因为担心还活着的人。特别是我爸爸。他们一起生活了那么多年，将来的日子，老爸可以一个人好好的活吗？我爸爸是个开朗的人，他很快地恢复日常生活，但我知道他很爱我妈妈。妈妈的离世，对我们大家来说可能是一种解脱。看着亲人一天天的衰弱死亡而无能为力，是一种折磨。

我记得妈妈临走前一晚，我替她修脚趾甲。她要求我们给她服药，那一刻她还是抱着希望会好起来。可能是我们给了她太多假希望，最后奇迹没发生。有人说，死亡只是换一个新躯体。这可能是最好的安慰。多一个亲人，就多一个伤心的可能。

这几年仿佛发生很多事，我外婆去世，婆婆去世，小姨出嫁，二哥娶妻，妈妈离世，侄儿出世。白事红事一起来。我希望自己会对这一切麻木掉。但我只是一个凡人，一个学习看透的凡人。

来不及 (爱得太迟- 古巨基)

2007-11-07T06:02:00.000-08:00

来不及的爱
来不及表达的歉意
来不及挽回的错误
来不及实现的诺言
来不及送出的祝福
来不及离别前最后的拥抱.......。
我们总有太多的来不及。

In memory of my beloved mother, who passed away on 14 Feb 2007. I will remember her brave spirit: fight till the end.